hold onto yourself
so lately i have been noticing something strange. so it seems that everyone iknow is or has lost a part of their idenity. i know it sounds silly but i feel it to be true. i mean i know that iknow who i am and what i like and dislike now. but damn how many years did it take me to get here. i dont think that i could just let it go so easily. lately i have spoken to some people that are married and they have no hobbies or things they like to do. so they are asking everyone esle, "what do you do when you are not talking to your husband or kids or taking care of them"? ok so iknow that mothers have their hands full, so i understand that. but these women were not always mothers, it seems to me that they would have something that they would enjoy doing in thier spare time, even though they may not be have alot of time to do it.
then another friend, with no children, told me that she feels since her and her boyfriend have been together(living)she has just lost a part of herself. i really hate to hear that kind of stuff. i mean this was a very strong woman, so sure of who she was. what is going on here? i realize that life changes us as people along the path, but this is damn ridiculous. the thing i guess that bothers me is that these women are really unhappy and dont know how to fix it. i want to help my friends whenever possible, but i dont know how to tell them to hold onto themselves. is co habitation possible with out actually having some sort of diminishing of personalities? or does that have absolutely nothing to do with it? could this happen to people with out the efforts of others? i have no clue.
i am sure that this happens to males too. i am not saying that women are the only ones effected, but they are the only ones who have spoken to me about this. i guess i just find itstrange, how a once so strong personality and spirit could be broken down to nearly nothing by either themselves, others around them, or the ones that they love.
then another friend, with no children, told me that she feels since her and her boyfriend have been together(living)she has just lost a part of herself. i really hate to hear that kind of stuff. i mean this was a very strong woman, so sure of who she was. what is going on here? i realize that life changes us as people along the path, but this is damn ridiculous. the thing i guess that bothers me is that these women are really unhappy and dont know how to fix it. i want to help my friends whenever possible, but i dont know how to tell them to hold onto themselves. is co habitation possible with out actually having some sort of diminishing of personalities? or does that have absolutely nothing to do with it? could this happen to people with out the efforts of others? i have no clue.
i am sure that this happens to males too. i am not saying that women are the only ones effected, but they are the only ones who have spoken to me about this. i guess i just find itstrange, how a once so strong personality and spirit could be broken down to nearly nothing by either themselves, others around them, or the ones that they love.