It seems that I only use this journal to complain, I sure do it enough, stupid being emo, god emo is like natural entropy, where chaos is replaced with the concept of emo. There is simply a natural shift to the more emo. Fuck now im just being a science d

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Ok so one thing I hate is when people test the validity of relationships. Its so bothersome, but every one does it, especially insecure people . What's worse is that people seem to justify it, at least subconsciously, by thinking they are using some version of the scientific method, which is absolutely absurd. What I mean by this is people set up an experiment to test their relationship, and then use the somewhat skewn information to judge if how they view the relationship is reciprocated. The tests usually consists of this. The tester sets criteria for how they view the relationship, and what this relationship consists of. Then they use these criteria to set up a blind test, meaning that the person being tested does not know it. For example the tester sets a criteria that if some friend of theirs is a good friend, they would pick up their pencil for them if it were dropped. So what the tester would do is deliberately drop their pencil, probably in plain view and see if they would pick it up. Here is where the major problem in this "experiment" is. If the person does not pick up the pencil they fail the test and may or may not get written off as a friend. The problem with the "experiment" is that, first of all it probably isn't tested multiple times to see correct error, but more importantly it ignores one major variable. This would be that the person does not perceive the test in the same way the tester does. This can manifest in many ways. First the person might all together miss the test, they may have not seen the pencil, or not have noticed it fall, which would automatically fail them. Another is that the person tested might view the relationship on the same level, but not value the test in the same way. For example, one person may think that any good friend would hold the door for another friend, but the friend being tested might not value door holding at all, thus not holding the door, but still viewing the person as a good friend. One less common issue is that the person is just absent minded and flakey as many are, and may even deeply love the person, but still manage to fail one such test just cause of their nature. Although in some cases these sort of tests could be accurate, they are fairly manipulative and usually unnecessary.
I don't know, I could be wrong, but it seems to me that people do this sort of stuff all the time, and always are too quick to judge the results. What's worse, and I may be being cynical, is that too some extent human interaction has been depleted to the point that to succeed in society all you have to do is be good at, spotting and passing such tests. I guess that may be how you know you have a real friend, when you don't need to test them to know they are your friends.