Up on the soapbox.... don't read unless you are bored lah!
Washing dishes can be a pretty mindless task, and so the brains can be freed to do some wandering... :)
Was just thinking that it doesn't what area in life it is, nobody likes being preached to, in no matter what form - words, actions, straight out, implied, whatever. They just don't like it.
It's an interesting thought for me, and I think for Eug as well cos later he came into the kitchen and he mentioned something about how he gets teased for being a food nazi, and about how he felt a little bad about not being so enthusiastic about his PA's birthday cake when offered a slice today.
I remember back in Uni, someone from Campas Crusade (I think!) told me that sharing the gospel was something quite natural to do, just like if you go to a BBQ and you have a chicken wing and if it's yummy, you would naturally go to other ppl and say "Hey, you have to try the chicken wing, it's really yummy man!" I think she meant to say that if something was so good, or if you felt that something was so good, you couldn't contain it, you'd just naturally say it.
To a certain extent I think it's true.
But now, older and wiser, I also realise that with many other things in life, its not as straightforward as chicken wings!
When you learn some information or gain some knowledge and you think it's very good, it's true that your natural enthusiasm for something you percieve as good will have you wanting to tell people about it. But when you bubble over and share, people around you are likely to think that you are PREACHING and they don't want to be preached to. I think it makes people feel lacking or as if they were in a inferior position. They think that you have a "holier-than-thou" attitude, "I-know-better-than-you" attitude, and mostly they become defensive.
I've found this true for just about any area....
parenting (other parents don't want to hear about your newfound knowledge cos I think they think their kids are just fine and you are being an over- doer...),
health (mostly people with no health problems will think their current lifestyles are just fine and who do you think you are to tell me differently? My uncle ate 5 eggs a day and smokes like a chimney and is hale and hearty now at the ripe old age of 88!),
image (who says black is not my colour? Ppl have told me I look nice in it!),
and even HOUSEWORK (I prefer to use this kind of mop cos that one cannot cover enough floor area!)...
Sooooooo... I've learnt to keep my mouth shut no matter how good I think my "knowledge" or information is. I figured that these days, with the bookshops and libraries and the internet so easily available and accessible to everyone, thre's no excuse for anyone to not suss out new information themselves anyway.
Now... to teach my dear hubby the same thing... he sometimes get a bit over enthusiastic about new knowledge that he's gained and pisses the heck out of people... like for eg his parents when he keeps going on and on about healthy lifestyles and what nots.... aiyoh! I always tell him, if they want to find out more, they will! Don't go on and on about it!
So anyway, that's my thought for the day... *grin* Dishwashing inspirations?!
Was just thinking that it doesn't what area in life it is, nobody likes being preached to, in no matter what form - words, actions, straight out, implied, whatever. They just don't like it.
It's an interesting thought for me, and I think for Eug as well cos later he came into the kitchen and he mentioned something about how he gets teased for being a food nazi, and about how he felt a little bad about not being so enthusiastic about his PA's birthday cake when offered a slice today.
I remember back in Uni, someone from Campas Crusade (I think!) told me that sharing the gospel was something quite natural to do, just like if you go to a BBQ and you have a chicken wing and if it's yummy, you would naturally go to other ppl and say "Hey, you have to try the chicken wing, it's really yummy man!" I think she meant to say that if something was so good, or if you felt that something was so good, you couldn't contain it, you'd just naturally say it.
To a certain extent I think it's true.
But now, older and wiser, I also realise that with many other things in life, its not as straightforward as chicken wings!
When you learn some information or gain some knowledge and you think it's very good, it's true that your natural enthusiasm for something you percieve as good will have you wanting to tell people about it. But when you bubble over and share, people around you are likely to think that you are PREACHING and they don't want to be preached to. I think it makes people feel lacking or as if they were in a inferior position. They think that you have a "holier-than-thou" attitude, "I-know-better-than-you" attitude, and mostly they become defensive.
I've found this true for just about any area....
parenting (other parents don't want to hear about your newfound knowledge cos I think they think their kids are just fine and you are being an over- doer...),
health (mostly people with no health problems will think their current lifestyles are just fine and who do you think you are to tell me differently? My uncle ate 5 eggs a day and smokes like a chimney and is hale and hearty now at the ripe old age of 88!),
image (who says black is not my colour? Ppl have told me I look nice in it!),
and even HOUSEWORK (I prefer to use this kind of mop cos that one cannot cover enough floor area!)...
Sooooooo... I've learnt to keep my mouth shut no matter how good I think my "knowledge" or information is. I figured that these days, with the bookshops and libraries and the internet so easily available and accessible to everyone, thre's no excuse for anyone to not suss out new information themselves anyway.
Now... to teach my dear hubby the same thing... he sometimes get a bit over enthusiastic about new knowledge that he's gained and pisses the heck out of people... like for eg his parents when he keeps going on and on about healthy lifestyles and what nots.... aiyoh! I always tell him, if they want to find out more, they will! Don't go on and on about it!
So anyway, that's my thought for the day... *grin* Dishwashing inspirations?!