Finally!
I am catching up on my e-mail. Thanks to ornerie, I figured out how to change my default friends view. Now I can do what I always wanted, friend a bunch of people and yet not have them on my default reading list.
I want to read everyone, but I have to be disciplined. I love reading and there is an unlimited amount of things that interest me - a bad combination. Hence, I rarely add people to my friends list anymore.
I am posting more and more "friends only" of late - posting a lot about projects relating to the SCA and my travels (I protect those posts so people cannot figure when we are away from home). Using the security features of LJ means that I am aiming for a specific audience - but that audience is not the same as my reading list!
I wish there was a way to display without ambiguity in LJ that someone is part of my trusted audience but that they aren't part of my default reading view.
Marie-Andrée and others - you need to create yourself an LJ account so you can continue reading me!
I leave you with a quote from an article
j_v_lynch linked to. It has given me much food for thought tonight.
"Relationships flow along the path of least resistance. If you make it tough for others to relate to you, don’t be surprised if they go elsewhere. No matter how nice, knowledgeable, clever, witty, sexy, or well-connected you are, no one is forced to accept anything beyond the most superficial dealings with you. Besides, there are plenty of other people who are nicer, brighter, wittier, cleverer, sexier, and better-connected than you are. Some of them are probably richer too. "
I want to read everyone, but I have to be disciplined. I love reading and there is an unlimited amount of things that interest me - a bad combination. Hence, I rarely add people to my friends list anymore.
I am posting more and more "friends only" of late - posting a lot about projects relating to the SCA and my travels (I protect those posts so people cannot figure when we are away from home). Using the security features of LJ means that I am aiming for a specific audience - but that audience is not the same as my reading list!
I wish there was a way to display without ambiguity in LJ that someone is part of my trusted audience but that they aren't part of my default reading view.
Marie-Andrée and others - you need to create yourself an LJ account so you can continue reading me!
I leave you with a quote from an article
j_v_lynch linked to. It has given me much food for thought tonight.
"Relationships flow along the path of least resistance. If you make it tough for others to relate to you, don’t be surprised if they go elsewhere. No matter how nice, knowledgeable, clever, witty, sexy, or well-connected you are, no one is forced to accept anything beyond the most superficial dealings with you. Besides, there are plenty of other people who are nicer, brighter, wittier, cleverer, sexier, and better-connected than you are. Some of them are probably richer too. "