One thing I've wondered about

[yaoihuntresse]

Given how the purity craze loves to convince girls how their virginity is the only virtue they should worry about let alone the only one that will matter to your future husband, I wonder how does this effect the women who bought into it after they finally lose their virginity on their wedding night? After being so convinced it's the only thing they

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[libbaay]

You know, that perception has always bothered me a lot.
I am a recently married Christian and my husband & I both (technically) waited until our wedding night. I had sex once when I was much too young and it was so traumatizing/heartbreaking that I decided that I wouldn't do it again until I was married. I became a Christian about a year later and met my husband another year later. We both grew in our faith together & decided together that we'd wait because that's what God asks. However, I am sort of a feminist when it comes to our relationship, and I in no way expected to "lie there & expect some discomfort." And if my husband wasn't going to love me after having sex because my virginity was gone then: 1)he's too old fashioned 2)he has no sense of reality and 3)he's an idiot! Even if women choose to wait until marriage, I see no reason why they should feel that that's the only reason men find value in them. We live in such a different world than our grandmothers did; people need to accept that. I'm not advocating having sex before marriage (because of my beliefs and because of the risks that accompany it), however, virginity is not what makes a woman. It's simply a lifestyle that each woman gets to choose.
Thanks for letting me babble on!

[yaoihuntresse]

It's no problem. The reason I ask that is because of the heavy pressure the purity movement puts on girls that some of these programs will go as far as no lustful thoughts and I've seen how some girls will become frightened of even looking at a nude body and even begged the dean of art school they went to (I was an art major at the time) to let them skip the figure drawing class because of it.