Another developmental spurt

[rebeccapaul]

Some time in the last few months, Jonah has developed the capacity to deceive. I'm sure this is an important skill to have (especially if he goes into politics), but it is not my favorite skill

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[irilyth]

Juniper has for a while not liked to admit when something is wrong, but she's old enough now (two and a half) that it starts to feel more like lying. We try to talk about things that make her unhappy, or that make me unhappy, but she seems to prefer denial as a strategy -- saying "no no no I didn't have a bonk!" (if she's hurt herself) or "no no no I didn't throw water" (tonight, when she threw a cup of water out of the bathtub and I took the cup away, after I'd already told her not to -- she didn't do it maliciously, she was just being happy and crazy and careless). And she understands the idea of tricking and being tricked and being tricky; we're trying to bang pretty hard on the idea that people sometimes say things that aren't true because it's funny, and then they laugh and say "no, really", like if I say "mmmm, I want to eat a delicious Junie nose!" And she totally gets that and thinks it's fun and funny, so that seems good. I imagine it'll all change, several times, as she gets older. :^) Anyway, good luck working through it

[sildra]

I remember with my brother especially it was hard to tell when he made the transition was between hiding and lying, and also between warping his perception of reality to fit what he thought it should be and understanding reality but just lying about it. It didn't help that at 2 1/2, when he was approximately making those transitions, he could barely speak yet (he was one of those kids who suddenly went from not speaking to speaking in full sentences sometime when he was between 2 1/2 and 3, which isn't too surprising/uncommon for a youngest child in a big family, but it made it hard to tell whether or not he understood certain nuances for a while

[rivka17]

Lirael made a big leap in lying recently too. For a while she has denied truths she did not want ie. time to go to bed. But the other day i told her that she could not have a cookie. So she asked her dad who also told her no. So she went to her grandmother and said "gamma mommy told me to tell you to get me a cookie" I have sent her on missions before to have my mom get her something when my hands were full, but this is the first time she has gone unsent and created her own message at odds with what both her dad and I told her.