Friends & Family.
After over 10 years of friendship, Jackie Carbajal and myself are no longer friends. While this may come as a shock to many of you, myself included, ultimately it is going to be for the best. I am usually not one to put things up on the internet regarding life events, but I feel that it is necessary so that you all can understand what is going on.
In life we grow up, we mature, and sometimes during this process our lives just head in different directions. This is what happened with Jackie and myself. I'm not the same person that I was 10 years ago in high school and after 10 years of seeing Jackie through those eyes...I have opened them and realized that we are just two different people. Know that this was not easy for me to deal with at first. The whole situation that lead up to this discovery was one that is a blur and hard for me to understand. In fact for those of you still in contact with Jackie you may have a better idea than myself. You see despite my efforts to handle the situation like an adult and leave things amicably, Jackie just ignored me and shut me out. Even when I requested my wedding scrapbook from her despite all the harsh things that had been said I was nice and let her know that I was not interested in talking just wanted my stuff back. Her response was to proceed to ignore me and my requests for my belongs and then to change her phone number. It's funny when you think that you know someone and what type of person they are and then poof one variable in life can change and you realize that you are dealing with a stranger that you know nothing about.
This is my way of publicly stating that despite the way I have been treated over the past two months...this has never been my issue and I hold no anger nor animosity towards her. I wish her the best of luck in life and will look back at these past 10 years with fond memories of time spent together and appreciate all that she has done for me. It saddens me that it has come to this but there also comes a point of no return and for me I have reached that. You can only be shot down so many times before you realize it is time to pick up the pieces and move on. I know at the end of the day I have a lot to be grateful for and am surround by a lot of amazing people. Now I have more time to spent with those people and can focus on taking care of just myself and my family for once in a REALLY REALLY long time.
The lesson I hope that all of you can learn from this is that nothing is certain in life. I once believed that Jackie and I would be best friends forever and that there was nothing that could tear us apart. I was blinded by that and allowed myself to be blind when it came to seeing what was right in front of my eyes. I know that many of you that I have spoken with have said that "You and Jackie will work things out in the future" this is my way of letting you all know that it's okay not to say that because honestly that is not what I want and clearly not what she wants either. While I will not go to such great lengths as to change my phone number and make my facebook where she thinks I don't have one...if there ever comes a time that she does realize what she has lost...I won't be waiting around for her and I will let her know that once trust like that has been broken...you can't go back from that. Life is about choices. We all make them and we all have to live with them. I am content with mine and know that at the end of the day...I walked away with my head held high and refused to be pushed to the point of being a person I no longer wish to be. This was my true test and I was able to take the high road.
Appreciate the times while you have them. Because one thing you can't control is life and the challenges it throws at you.
Love you all,
Kristina Martinez
In life we grow up, we mature, and sometimes during this process our lives just head in different directions. This is what happened with Jackie and myself. I'm not the same person that I was 10 years ago in high school and after 10 years of seeing Jackie through those eyes...I have opened them and realized that we are just two different people. Know that this was not easy for me to deal with at first. The whole situation that lead up to this discovery was one that is a blur and hard for me to understand. In fact for those of you still in contact with Jackie you may have a better idea than myself. You see despite my efforts to handle the situation like an adult and leave things amicably, Jackie just ignored me and shut me out. Even when I requested my wedding scrapbook from her despite all the harsh things that had been said I was nice and let her know that I was not interested in talking just wanted my stuff back. Her response was to proceed to ignore me and my requests for my belongs and then to change her phone number. It's funny when you think that you know someone and what type of person they are and then poof one variable in life can change and you realize that you are dealing with a stranger that you know nothing about.
This is my way of publicly stating that despite the way I have been treated over the past two months...this has never been my issue and I hold no anger nor animosity towards her. I wish her the best of luck in life and will look back at these past 10 years with fond memories of time spent together and appreciate all that she has done for me. It saddens me that it has come to this but there also comes a point of no return and for me I have reached that. You can only be shot down so many times before you realize it is time to pick up the pieces and move on. I know at the end of the day I have a lot to be grateful for and am surround by a lot of amazing people. Now I have more time to spent with those people and can focus on taking care of just myself and my family for once in a REALLY REALLY long time.
The lesson I hope that all of you can learn from this is that nothing is certain in life. I once believed that Jackie and I would be best friends forever and that there was nothing that could tear us apart. I was blinded by that and allowed myself to be blind when it came to seeing what was right in front of my eyes. I know that many of you that I have spoken with have said that "You and Jackie will work things out in the future" this is my way of letting you all know that it's okay not to say that because honestly that is not what I want and clearly not what she wants either. While I will not go to such great lengths as to change my phone number and make my facebook where she thinks I don't have one...if there ever comes a time that she does realize what she has lost...I won't be waiting around for her and I will let her know that once trust like that has been broken...you can't go back from that. Life is about choices. We all make them and we all have to live with them. I am content with mine and know that at the end of the day...I walked away with my head held high and refused to be pushed to the point of being a person I no longer wish to be. This was my true test and I was able to take the high road.
Appreciate the times while you have them. Because one thing you can't control is life and the challenges it throws at you.
Love you all,
Kristina Martinez