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Friday, September 16, 2005
Love is indeed a gift and it does emphasize giving, but not at the expense of the values, needs and goals which make you who you are.
Doing anything you think the relationship requires can cause problems. Sometimes it's fun to daydream, imagining yourself a movie hero saving your loved one from disaster or standing by faithfully while he or she weathers a crisis of major proportions. But real-life teen relationships rarely demand such heroics. They do, however, present serious choices. If you find that you are faced with a decision that makes you choose between your values or the relationship, think about the choice seriously. Subscribing to the "I'll-do-anything-for-love" myth not only tempts you to do something you may regret, but it also lowers your self-esteem.
Thursday, September 15, 2005
The goal of communication is understanding.
Communication is more than just talking. It's knowing what's going on, and sometimes why. It's sharing, and then reflecting on what's being shared. It's believing that what you have to say is recognized as important. Communicating with parents can be frustrating. But when parents and teens respect each other's views, and understand each other's perspectives, a climate of trust can be established which makes communication much easier.
Love is indeed a gift and it does emphasize giving, but not at the expense of the values, needs and goals which make you who you are.
Doing anything you think the relationship requires can cause problems. Sometimes it's fun to daydream, imagining yourself a movie hero saving your loved one from disaster or standing by faithfully while he or she weathers a crisis of major proportions. But real-life teen relationships rarely demand such heroics. They do, however, present serious choices. If you find that you are faced with a decision that makes you choose between your values or the relationship, think about the choice seriously. Subscribing to the "I'll-do-anything-for-love" myth not only tempts you to do something you may regret, but it also lowers your self-esteem.
Thursday, September 15, 2005
The goal of communication is understanding.
Communication is more than just talking. It's knowing what's going on, and sometimes why. It's sharing, and then reflecting on what's being shared. It's believing that what you have to say is recognized as important. Communicating with parents can be frustrating. But when parents and teens respect each other's views, and understand each other's perspectives, a climate of trust can be established which makes communication much easier.