Q&A

[razrangel]

I am screening comments again. Answers will be screened or not screened at my discretion, unless you really, really want me to screen.

Ask me a question about each of the following:

- Friends
- Sex
- Music
- Drugs
- Love
- Misc.

No matter how rude, sexual, or confidential. Then post this in your journal and see what questions you get asked!

Comments

Re: Some built on previous foundations...in no apparent order...

[razrangel]

1. I've never done it, I'm curious, after a conversation with someone of experience it came to sound like it would be an experience I could get with. (I was responding that it is a drug I have never tried but would like to.)

2. HM. I've been pondering this all day, and have occasionally wondered about it extensively in the past. First and foremost I don't want to say that I don't like anger or that it bugs me when people get angry. That's not accurate. Anger has it's place and it's use and necessity. Like pain, it tells us when something is wrong that needs immediate attention. If you could cut out physical pain you might feel better about some things but you run a severe risk of doing yourself damage (say destroying nerves and ruining your skin) if you don't notice something that is harming you (eg a fire).

Outrage lets us know when we're facing outrage.

So. When it troubles me is when people hold onto things that hurt and turn that into a destructive effect either toward themselves or the world around them. I don't know of anyone who hasn't done this, myself included, but it's an instinct toward violence - emotional or otherwise - that is an unkindness and, instinctive or not, doesn't seem to be of any use. At least progressive use, in the interest of growth.

When it gets hardest for me to deal with is usually when it's aimed inward because someone who is a friend of mine of going to great lengths to hate him or herself isn't hearing the sincerity in my voice when I say "I love you." And they certainly aren't hearing, then, that I mean "you are worth loving, even by yourself." ... I guess it's when it gets really violent in speech and thought that I feel it starts to make the world a worse place than it already was. The emotion itself is not my enemy, nor would be anyone under its sway. But it makes me very wary and sensitive around people who I care about but who are at the moment one major nerve ending.

I have no idea if that helps/makes sense. Always feel free to ask more questions in this, or any regard.

3. Hm. You? People all around inspire me. Some to improve my mind, some my body, some my interaction with other people. When I look around and wish for some guidance, I often look at the examples of my friends in dealing with upsetting situations and so on. I try to take what I like, what strikes me as grace, reason and humor and incorporate it into my problem solving methods. There are various celeb types that I admire - living and dead - but they're a more abstract, star-like influence in my horizon.

I guess I could name names if you want, but it's really quite a list and I don't know if listing people you've never met would be as elucidating. But really, in many ways you do inspire me. }:>