Q&A

[razrangel]

I am screening comments again. Answers will be screened or not screened at my discretion, unless you really, really want me to screen.

Ask me a question about each of the following:

- Friends
- Sex
- Music
- Drugs
- Love
- Misc.

No matter how rude, sexual, or confidential. Then post this in your journal and see what questions you get asked!

Comments

[razrangel]

Friends: Support always depends on what is needed at the moment. Sometimes a willing ear, sometimes a dry shoulder, often doing something that translates to chanting "rah-rah" and waving pom-poms. In specific it can be setting time aside to travel to the friend in order to spend quality time in their presence. It can be providing services or other resources to help the friend out of a jam or it can be any way of reaching through to distract and cheer them up either with words, deeds or actual material goods.

Recently I had a day where someone told me I was a good friend and related her gratitude for my friendship and that had me so happy I was giddy for hours. Later that same day I recieved news that hit me so hard I burst into tears in the presence of another friend. She held me tightly until I could myself together. I suppose I could break down these signs of friendship and support, but they're independently hugely important to me.

Telling me you care about me is more than enough, furthermore going out of your way to find ways to cheer me up or out of the blue offering time (a valuable resource we all horde for good or ill) to spend with me often strike me as sweet and touching.
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I don't feel that I need to know what people think of my physical appearance, unless their's broccoli between my teeth or something. I don't necessarily want to know what people think of what I look like and from past experience I really just don't know what to do with the information. I file it away with everything else that strikes me as trivial. This is actually because I only want to hear that I'm attractive to people to whom I'm attracted. I'm not sure if that's messed up or what, but I do know that it feels good to hear it from some quarters and I can take or leave it from everyone else.

HOWEVER, it wouldn't mess with the friendship too much to hear it. I think unless it's something that always has to be thrown out there, long after everybody has come to understand who thinks what. I mean, if it's a stalker-y, stilting thing that regularly interrupts conversation that's one thing. It'll impact the friendship for sure. But just the information being out there shouldn't be problematic.

The last answer will be screened (and I have to think about it a little more).