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I hear it all the time.
"My girlfriend is jealous. She thinks I have a crush on you."
"I can't wait for you to meet /newgirlfriend/. She's terrified of you."
"Please don't write on my Facebook wall. /Girlfriend/ picks a fight with me every time you do. Just email me."
I was discussing this with perich last night, and he said "Well, you're attractive, funny, and confident. It makes sense." I nearly spit my burrito out at him. The first two items may be debatable, but confident? ME??? No, you must have me confused with someone else. Loud, maybe. But certainly not confident. I don't know how I've managed to fool so many people, and inadvertently gotten so many people to be scared of me.
I guess I don't mean "people". I guess I mean "women". My friend's girlfriends, women I've never met, women I know with whom I'd like to be better friends - they're all intimidated by me. I don't understand it and I have no idea what to do about it. If I were to possess less of the qualities they're intimidated by, I'd be a boring ugly idiot, and who wants to be friends with that girl? I try to be demure, but it comes off as standoffish, and then I live up to expectations. Should I come after them, instead? Demand their friendship, insisting, fists in the air, that I AM NOT THAT SCARY STOP BEING SO SCARED OF ME LET'S HANG OUT SOMETIME??
Maybe this is why I've had so many of the same friends for so long - I'm scared to let go of them because making new ones is insane.
"My girlfriend is jealous. She thinks I have a crush on you."
"I can't wait for you to meet /newgirlfriend/. She's terrified of you."
"Please don't write on my Facebook wall. /Girlfriend/ picks a fight with me every time you do. Just email me."
I was discussing this with perich last night, and he said "Well, you're attractive, funny, and confident. It makes sense." I nearly spit my burrito out at him. The first two items may be debatable, but confident? ME??? No, you must have me confused with someone else. Loud, maybe. But certainly not confident. I don't know how I've managed to fool so many people, and inadvertently gotten so many people to be scared of me.
I guess I don't mean "people". I guess I mean "women". My friend's girlfriends, women I've never met, women I know with whom I'd like to be better friends - they're all intimidated by me. I don't understand it and I have no idea what to do about it. If I were to possess less of the qualities they're intimidated by, I'd be a boring ugly idiot, and who wants to be friends with that girl? I try to be demure, but it comes off as standoffish, and then I live up to expectations. Should I come after them, instead? Demand their friendship, insisting, fists in the air, that I AM NOT THAT SCARY STOP BEING SO SCARED OF ME LET'S HANG OUT SOMETIME??
Maybe this is why I've had so many of the same friends for so long - I'm scared to let go of them because making new ones is insane.