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So someone saw the ad I posted in polypersonals a while ago, the one that astras_brian responded to and started a *beautiful friendship*. He's awesome. But that's a tangent.
They wanted to know my thoughts on poly, and why I thought of it as something beautiful. I don't particuarly want to give them my e-mail (nothing personal, I just don't know them) so I figured I could answer them here and link them to it. Besides, it's an interesting subject.
Not long, though, I have to babysit tonight and I still have to eat dinner. A heh heh.
I like polyfidelity in particular. I don't know how much of the rest of poly I would practice rather than just appreciate as an idea; it's really only polyfidelity that sings to me, you know? For anyone who doesn't know the difference, being polyamorous is kind of like being in an open relationship, only with extra relationships instead of just extra sexual parteners. Being polyfidelous means that you can have many partners within an approved group, kind of. All these definitions are fluid, of course, but that's how I see them. So polyfidelity, to me, means that if I had a primary partner, as long as (s)he approved of my other partners, I could be in a relationship with them aswell, and vice versa. In addition, my primary partner engage in relationships with anyone they approved for me. A big (or small, it's a personal choice) network of love.
I see poly as being something much, much more desirable than open relationships; yes, there are problems with the system, yes, it can be difficult to deal with jealousies and all sorts of other troubles that arise, but generally speaking it's a beautiful idea to have more than one person that you are in love with and who loves you back. Twice the problems, but also twice the love and benefits. I think that's a really beautiful idea.
My ideal would to be in a three-person relationship; me and two others, who are also in a relationship. Three primary parteners. I hope I actually get a chace try to make that work in the future; probably not soon, but eventually, when I'm an adult and can deal with it maturely and have experience enough in relationships to handle two at one, plus stand in the middle of a third. It's something I find really attractive.
Anyway, I hope I answered your questions, mystery person. Feel free to keep asking in comments here, I'll answer to the best of my knowledge.
They wanted to know my thoughts on poly, and why I thought of it as something beautiful. I don't particuarly want to give them my e-mail (nothing personal, I just don't know them) so I figured I could answer them here and link them to it. Besides, it's an interesting subject.
Not long, though, I have to babysit tonight and I still have to eat dinner. A heh heh.
I like polyfidelity in particular. I don't know how much of the rest of poly I would practice rather than just appreciate as an idea; it's really only polyfidelity that sings to me, you know? For anyone who doesn't know the difference, being polyamorous is kind of like being in an open relationship, only with extra relationships instead of just extra sexual parteners. Being polyfidelous means that you can have many partners within an approved group, kind of. All these definitions are fluid, of course, but that's how I see them. So polyfidelity, to me, means that if I had a primary partner, as long as (s)he approved of my other partners, I could be in a relationship with them aswell, and vice versa. In addition, my primary partner engage in relationships with anyone they approved for me. A big (or small, it's a personal choice) network of love.
I see poly as being something much, much more desirable than open relationships; yes, there are problems with the system, yes, it can be difficult to deal with jealousies and all sorts of other troubles that arise, but generally speaking it's a beautiful idea to have more than one person that you are in love with and who loves you back. Twice the problems, but also twice the love and benefits. I think that's a really beautiful idea.
My ideal would to be in a three-person relationship; me and two others, who are also in a relationship. Three primary parteners. I hope I actually get a chace try to make that work in the future; probably not soon, but eventually, when I'm an adult and can deal with it maturely and have experience enough in relationships to handle two at one, plus stand in the middle of a third. It's something I find really attractive.
Anyway, I hope I answered your questions, mystery person. Feel free to keep asking in comments here, I'll answer to the best of my knowledge.