Why Blaming Lily is Rooted in Misogyny - Part 3/Conclusion/What I've learned in the last 4 years

[ravenstar84]

"Patriarchy has no gender." ~Bell Hooks
I don't know who else is still around the fandomsphere that may read this. The few people I was close to here I've connected with on Facebook, and real life has a taken a toll on all of us in different ways. But writing out Part 3 was always my unfinished business, and at least now I have a slightly more

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[sailorlum]

I can honestly say that your anti-misogyny Lily posts have been an inspiration to my calling misogyny out

[ravenstar84]

I think the books give a good example of racism and prejudice and why it's wrong. What I kept seeing in the past was everyone constantly throwing out real life words and situations. It just doesn't sit well with me looking back on it.

And omg! I'm now at the age where my friends have babies, and shopping for baby showers/birthdays for toys/clothes is so annoying! It's so hard to find anything gender neutral or anything that's not strictly pink and blue. I remember growing up playing with multiple toys and wearing every color when I was kid. Even looking for baby shower cards and gift bags gets complicated. -_-

[sailorlum]

I think the books give a good example of racism and prejudice and why it's wrong. What I kept seeing in the past was everyone constantly throwing out real life words and situations. It just doesn't sit well with me looking back on it.

Ah, I can dig it. I've backed off on that, myself, tbh.

And omg! I'm now at the age where my friends have babies, and shopping for baby showers/birthdays for toys/clothes is so annoying! It's so hard to find anything gender neutral or anything that's not strictly pink and blue. I remember growing up playing with multiple toys and wearing every color when I was kid. Even looking for baby shower cards and gift bags gets complicated. -_-I wore and played with anything I pleased, that I could get my parents to buy for me, and they'd let me break gender norms so it was just a matter of affording it (although my peers were not always down with that and there was some ostracizing and slurring, now and then), but it would be even harder for me today. It's just mind boggling. -_

[ravenstar84]

If anything, you should be able to find colors with kid clothes. The only problem is that when it comes to boy clothes, the color combo is usually brown, blue and green, while girls have the pink and purple colors. Then again, maybe I need to shop at places other than Target. <.

[sailorlum]

I used to work for Kids R Us/Babies R Us, and they used to have a gender neutral section for the babies, but now it's all been divided up, and it's pretty much like what you've found at Target. Each section does have some green and yellow, but not much. All stores I've looked at, that have a boy and girl section, are this way. ^_^' And the gender neutral clothing stores seem to stock mostly the same type of stuff you find in the "boys section" of others stores (the colors are mostly all bold or drab, with few brights and pastels...it's depressing, I was hoping for a better mix of all colors and shades). I think picking from both "boy" and "girl" sections is going to be what I have to do if I want the most color and shade diversity, but that's okay, because I buy from whatever section I like, for myself, and it's all arbitrary, anyway, these boy/girl section divides