I have no idea what this is like, so I will just say you are wonderful, and that what he is doing is yet another developmental milestone.
I should note that he is in no way expressing a preference for Pete over you. He is expressing his ability to make choices. You probably know that already, and I'm not trying to be Informing Girl, I'm just trying to tell you so that someone else has said it and your poor heart bears up a little better under it. It is a horrible stab.
Anecdotally, I had a woman in the ITC "common issues" class that I helped co-lead there. She was the only single mother (Acton, inorite?) in a class of 17 parents. When this topic came up, she said that it happened just as often with her, and she was terrified that single parenting would damage her son, because rather than saying, "No, daddy" it was just "No, no mommy" and she didn't want him to go without all that book reading and walking together and playing.
It totally does suck, and it is totally not your fault, and that is a horrid developmental milestone for parents. All of them agreed when we talked about it.
Hopefully a short milestone, right? Like those tantrums I'm still hoping will end soon? :)
In all seriousness, thank you for this comment. It made me feel better about the whole thing - truly. And anybody who gives you flak for chiming in with information get the Ban Hammer from my journal; I'm not even kidding. My early childhood development classes are...good God, they're over 15 years behind me. Sheesh. Your information and opinions are always helpful and always welcome.
I should note that he is in no way expressing a preference for Pete over you. He is expressing his ability to make choices. You probably know that already, and I'm not trying to be Informing Girl, I'm just trying to tell you so that someone else has said it and your poor heart bears up a little better under it. It is a horrible stab.
Anecdotally, I had a woman in the ITC "common issues" class that I helped co-lead there. She was the only single mother (Acton, inorite?) in a class of 17 parents. When this topic came up, she said that it happened just as often with her, and she was terrified that single parenting would damage her son, because rather than saying, "No, daddy" it was just "No, no mommy" and she didn't want him to go without all that book reading and walking together and playing.
It totally does suck, and it is totally not your fault, and that is a horrid developmental milestone for parents. All of them agreed when we talked about it.
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In all seriousness, thank you for this comment. It made me feel better about the whole thing - truly. And anybody who gives you flak for chiming in with information get the Ban Hammer from my journal; I'm not even kidding. My early childhood development classes are...good God, they're over 15 years behind me. Sheesh. Your information and opinions are always helpful and always welcome.
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