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[ravenmichiru]

Do you ever wonder that when you have a falling out with a friend, or delete them off your list because you rarely (if ever) talk, that they miss you or even notice you are gone?

I'm sadly beginning to think no in a lot of my cases.

Comments

[groovyjuice]

I didn't think I was still on your friends list. Both you and Steph posted "friends only/culling friends--sorry" things on your LJs, and when I didn't see anything from either of you for a while, I figured I'd been culled.

Good to see you're still around, Jen.

[ladybuggington]

I can't speak for Jen's culling you but for my part, when Jen and I broke up February, I felt like I could no longer trust anyone I thought I knew. So I changed my name and deleted the entirety of my friends list and added people back very slowly. You didn't say anything to either one of us around that time, so I put you in the I can't totally trust/probably doesn't care about me pile. As you never seemed to have noticed (at least in so far as you said anything I was aware of) I figured I'd rightly hedged my bet

[groovyjuice]

Everyone has their reasons for conducting their real and online lives the way they do; I figured I knew you both well enough that if either of you felt I should be cut from one list or another, then there wasn't anything I could say or do to convince you otherwise. You don't need to explain yourself to me, Steph, though I appreciate your honesty.

Aren't online relationships wonderful? Before Facebook, Livejournal, Myspace, Twitter--even back when there was just plain old email, when a friend fell off the face of the earth or even just grew distant, one could say that you simply lost touch with each other. Nowadays that's almost impossible to believe.

Love the icon, btw. Did you see that bust when it was living at the MIA (years and years ago)?

[ladybuggington]

I know I really didn't have to explain my motives to you. They may be inscrutable, if not outright insane, but I thought it would be nice to make the effort, if not a bit late.

The veiled woman was still in the MIA collection last I was there, 2 years ago. I always make an effort to see it whenever I'm there.

[tex_chan]

I know that exact feeling. Although, in my case, I'm pretty sure people wouldn't miss me. Because I'm mostly ignored, anyhow. >.O

But(!!) I would miss you. I would probably not say anything about it, just because of being afraid of overstepping boundaries or whatever, but I would definitely miss you.

*hugs*

[ravenmichiru]

I would miss you! I may not comment often, but I do read your entries and I would miss you.

[ladybuggington]

It just occurs to me now that I never responded to you personally in your own blog. So here you go:

Inaction is often the greatest form of action/ It hurts more too.

For the most part, the people you've grown apart from, you've done so for a reason. Likely because of that aforementioned inaction in whatever forms it may take. If they don't think about you, it may make you feel sad, but that's why you dropped the contact in the first place. If they do think about you, they're still committing the crime of inaction by not saying/doing anything about it, so you're still probably better off without them.

It's not always that cut and dry, but I'm insanely misanthropic lately so I prefer to think the worst of people.

[ravenmichiru]

I know that I am guilty of it some times, but I agree. Inaction is sometimes the greatest action.