A HUGE MISUNDERSTANDING!!!!!!
Yesterday Tristan and I invited cool neighbors over for a BBQ. Tristan also invited his cousin Harley and his family.
I've had problems with Harley's girl friend, Kelly in the past:
One night, not to long ago, all the guys were here getting drunk. I didn't want anything to do with it so I went to bed; next thing I know I'm waking up to pounding at the door. I thought it was the cops. I opened the door and seen that it was Kelly. I asked her what she wanted and she just pushed me out of my doorway. I was like, "Oh hell no you need to leave my house right now!!!" She diddn't listen to me. She found Harley but he was passed out and wasn't responding to her. I kept screaming at her to get out of my house. She told me that she wasn't going to leave until Harley went with her. Tristan finally pretended to call the cops and she left.
After all of this happened I said that I didn't want her at my house. She'd come over one time before the BBQ last night, and that time she came I went to my friend Robyn's house. I didn't want to be around her I was still to upset that she had disrespected me in my house. I didn't want to deal with her, or her attitude.
So yesterday Tristan and I planned to have a BBQ, he told me that he had invited Harley and his family. I said that was fine but I didn't want Kelly to start anything and he said that she wasn't going to. I told him that if she did, he'd better believe that I'd defend myself and put her in check. He told me that's what he'd expect and there wasn't anything to worry about.
Harley and his family showed up with fireworks. As soon as Harley and I were away from everyone he told me not to start anything with Kelly. I told him that I didn't plan on it, but the minute she even planned on disrespecting me on my property again, I was going to put her in check. He got all mad, and I told him that fair is fair. She's the one that started it with me.
The neighbor girl was excited that she'd have girls her age to play with. All of went into the backyard. Where I noticed that the kids, ranging 8-1 years old, were overwhelming my 5 month old chihuahua who's only 2 pounds. I picked him up and, infront of everyone at the BBQ, said, "Anyone that is not an adult may not hold Pocket. He may only be held by adult. No kids are to hold him. That's the only rule that I ask for you kids. You will go to time out if you can't obey this rule." All the kids agreed and understood what I was saying. All of the adult seemed to agree aswell and thought that it wasn't a hard rule.
Well the party went on and we were having a great time. My neighbor lady was impressed at how well I handled and managed children. She told me that she thought I'd be a great mom. For example; When we were getting their food ready we asked them if they wanted hamburgers or hotdogs. Or course they're kids so they started shouting their demands at us. I asked them all to be quiet and tell us one at a time. I explained to them it's not nice to just bark orders at people. This way they'd get what they'd want and we wouldn't be confused and mess up. I also had all of them put their shoes in the shoe closet, and told them they were putting them in there so nobody tripped on them and also so they would know where they would be for when they leave.
All of us gathered outside to watch the fireworks Harley and his Family brought. I got a blanket for the girls and they all watched the fireworks. The girls got scared and went into the house. I had gone in a couple of times to check on them. Well the last time I had gone in the house, the neighbor's daughter was holding Pocket. I asked her what she was doing holding him and to put him down. She did so. I asked her why she had broken the only rule I gave her, and she said that she didn't know. I asked her to sit down and watch t.v. with girls and to leave Pocket alone. I didn't think that the neighbor's daughter would just pick him up cuz she's pretty good at following rules, so I turned around and asked her who had givin' Pocket to her. She pointed at Kelly's older daughter. I asked her who had givin' her Pocket and she told me that Harley did it. I told the girls that they all were going to time out for not following the rule. I told them the time was 11:10 and that I'd be back at 11:20 to end their time out. No big deal right??
Well I had gone outside to tell Kelly what was going on. She started yelling at Harley and asking him why he had givin' the girls Pocket when I asked them not to hold him. She got up and went in the house. She came out saying that her kids weren't going to be in time out for something they didn't do. Harley admitted it was his fault, but how was I suppose to send a grown man to time out?? He told told me that he should be the one that's in trouble. I asked him how I was suppose but he didn't have an answer. I went inside and found the girls watching t.v. I decided that if they couldn't follow the rules they could come outside with all of us. I asked them to get their shoes and come outside. They all asked why and I told them that I didn't want them to be inside without any adults. The all marched outside. I went to the restroom and went out to Kelly screaming that I kicked her kids out of my house and she didn't want to stay if her kids were being kicked out. I told her that wasn't the case. I wanted them to be outside where we could watch them. Hell they're her kids and she wasn't even checking up on them. Why was it my responsiblity?? It wasn't. So, I sent them to where their parents could help out watching them. I even turned to my neighbor and told her that her daughter was also in time out for not following the rule.
She took it way out of control. She start talking crap to me and I just asked her to leave. She said that she wasn't going to leave. I stood up and told her that she had disrespected me once before on my property and it wasn't going to happen again. I asked her to leave a second time. She gave the same response. Harley told Tristan that he'd better check his girl - me. Tristan stood there. maybe thinking that I wasn't going to do anything. I lunged towards Kelly, grabbed her hair, pulled the glasses off of her face, and punched her. Harley stepped in and threw me off of her. I stood up and Harley pushed me down, that's when Tristan stepped in. He started pushing me towards the house, saying that I was out of control. As I was being pushed away I could hear Kelly talking crap so I went to go back, and Tristan threw my hands behind my head, in like a police hold, and threw me into my bedroom. He asked me what the hell was going on, and all that I asked him was to have Harley and Kelly leave and to leave me alone. He said that wasn't going to happen. He told me to calm down and not to let this ruin our party. After he had thrown me around I was screaming that it was over because he had hurt me and he let Harley do that to me. He finally left. I was still to angry so I grabbed Pocket and left to my friend Robyn's. As I was walking across my lawn I heard Kelly say, "She does this all the time. Why do think nobody invites you to the family parties?" I was like, "Really? Most could say the same about you." She was like, "Come back and say that to my face!" I told her that I would but it wasn't worth me putting my baby down. My baby means more to me.
As I walked to my friend's house I called the police, they got the addys, the names, and understood the situation. I got to Robyn's and I was balling. Her husband got her and she calmed me down. A police officer called me and asked me what was going on. I told him and he said that because the house if half Tristan's I really didn't have a say in whether she had to leave on not. It was a split vote 50-50. I said that was fine I'd stay at Robyn's. He asked for Tristan's phone number. He called Tristan and told Tristan that this sounded like something we could work out and that it simply wasn't worth his time he had better things to do. Tristan called me and told me that he wanted me to come home so that we could talk, and I told him I wasn't going to go home until they were gone. He told me that they were gone, they were at the neighbors. The neighbor lady called me and asked me to come back. She basically told me that I over reacted and that Pocket was ok. The girls weren't hurting him. I tried to explain to her that wasn't the point. I tried to tell her that Pocket's very little and could be hurt easily. I was once that age and my mom had to get rid or her chihuahua cuz even though we didn't mean to, we hurt her and just simply frightened the poor thing cuz we were allot bigger than her. She seemed to understand where I was coming from, and wanted me to come home. I told her the only way I'd come home is if Harley and Kelly left. She said that they were over there and to go home to Tristan. I asked her why they weren't willing to compromise. She was just upsetting me more. So I hung up the phone. I love her to pieces and I didn't want this whole out of control situation to break our friendship up. Tristan kept calling and asking me to go home and work it out. I told him that I was still upset and that I'd be home to talk to him about it all tomorrow. He told me he loved me and we hung up the phone. Robyn gave me some Captain and we talked about it all and then went to bed. I laid there for hours before I feel asleep. I finally did and Robyn's alarm went off. I shut it off and went to sleep. I woke up to breakfast and Tristan calling me to go home. She told me to take him breakfast and work it out. She asked me what I was going to do. I told her that I'm going to have Tristan take my name off the deed until we're married. I'm also going to let Tristan keep Harley as a friend, but I'm not going to have any respect for Harley until he understands where he was wrong in this whole situation and that he understands that, yes I may have attacked Kelly, but where she was also wrong in the situation and why I defended myself.
That's all for now.
Much Love; Austa: Mishia!!!!
I've had problems with Harley's girl friend, Kelly in the past:
One night, not to long ago, all the guys were here getting drunk. I didn't want anything to do with it so I went to bed; next thing I know I'm waking up to pounding at the door. I thought it was the cops. I opened the door and seen that it was Kelly. I asked her what she wanted and she just pushed me out of my doorway. I was like, "Oh hell no you need to leave my house right now!!!" She diddn't listen to me. She found Harley but he was passed out and wasn't responding to her. I kept screaming at her to get out of my house. She told me that she wasn't going to leave until Harley went with her. Tristan finally pretended to call the cops and she left.
After all of this happened I said that I didn't want her at my house. She'd come over one time before the BBQ last night, and that time she came I went to my friend Robyn's house. I didn't want to be around her I was still to upset that she had disrespected me in my house. I didn't want to deal with her, or her attitude.
So yesterday Tristan and I planned to have a BBQ, he told me that he had invited Harley and his family. I said that was fine but I didn't want Kelly to start anything and he said that she wasn't going to. I told him that if she did, he'd better believe that I'd defend myself and put her in check. He told me that's what he'd expect and there wasn't anything to worry about.
Harley and his family showed up with fireworks. As soon as Harley and I were away from everyone he told me not to start anything with Kelly. I told him that I didn't plan on it, but the minute she even planned on disrespecting me on my property again, I was going to put her in check. He got all mad, and I told him that fair is fair. She's the one that started it with me.
The neighbor girl was excited that she'd have girls her age to play with. All of went into the backyard. Where I noticed that the kids, ranging 8-1 years old, were overwhelming my 5 month old chihuahua who's only 2 pounds. I picked him up and, infront of everyone at the BBQ, said, "Anyone that is not an adult may not hold Pocket. He may only be held by adult. No kids are to hold him. That's the only rule that I ask for you kids. You will go to time out if you can't obey this rule." All the kids agreed and understood what I was saying. All of the adult seemed to agree aswell and thought that it wasn't a hard rule.
Well the party went on and we were having a great time. My neighbor lady was impressed at how well I handled and managed children. She told me that she thought I'd be a great mom. For example; When we were getting their food ready we asked them if they wanted hamburgers or hotdogs. Or course they're kids so they started shouting their demands at us. I asked them all to be quiet and tell us one at a time. I explained to them it's not nice to just bark orders at people. This way they'd get what they'd want and we wouldn't be confused and mess up. I also had all of them put their shoes in the shoe closet, and told them they were putting them in there so nobody tripped on them and also so they would know where they would be for when they leave.
All of us gathered outside to watch the fireworks Harley and his Family brought. I got a blanket for the girls and they all watched the fireworks. The girls got scared and went into the house. I had gone in a couple of times to check on them. Well the last time I had gone in the house, the neighbor's daughter was holding Pocket. I asked her what she was doing holding him and to put him down. She did so. I asked her why she had broken the only rule I gave her, and she said that she didn't know. I asked her to sit down and watch t.v. with girls and to leave Pocket alone. I didn't think that the neighbor's daughter would just pick him up cuz she's pretty good at following rules, so I turned around and asked her who had givin' Pocket to her. She pointed at Kelly's older daughter. I asked her who had givin' her Pocket and she told me that Harley did it. I told the girls that they all were going to time out for not following the rule. I told them the time was 11:10 and that I'd be back at 11:20 to end their time out. No big deal right??
Well I had gone outside to tell Kelly what was going on. She started yelling at Harley and asking him why he had givin' the girls Pocket when I asked them not to hold him. She got up and went in the house. She came out saying that her kids weren't going to be in time out for something they didn't do. Harley admitted it was his fault, but how was I suppose to send a grown man to time out?? He told told me that he should be the one that's in trouble. I asked him how I was suppose but he didn't have an answer. I went inside and found the girls watching t.v. I decided that if they couldn't follow the rules they could come outside with all of us. I asked them to get their shoes and come outside. They all asked why and I told them that I didn't want them to be inside without any adults. The all marched outside. I went to the restroom and went out to Kelly screaming that I kicked her kids out of my house and she didn't want to stay if her kids were being kicked out. I told her that wasn't the case. I wanted them to be outside where we could watch them. Hell they're her kids and she wasn't even checking up on them. Why was it my responsiblity?? It wasn't. So, I sent them to where their parents could help out watching them. I even turned to my neighbor and told her that her daughter was also in time out for not following the rule.
She took it way out of control. She start talking crap to me and I just asked her to leave. She said that she wasn't going to leave. I stood up and told her that she had disrespected me once before on my property and it wasn't going to happen again. I asked her to leave a second time. She gave the same response. Harley told Tristan that he'd better check his girl - me. Tristan stood there. maybe thinking that I wasn't going to do anything. I lunged towards Kelly, grabbed her hair, pulled the glasses off of her face, and punched her. Harley stepped in and threw me off of her. I stood up and Harley pushed me down, that's when Tristan stepped in. He started pushing me towards the house, saying that I was out of control. As I was being pushed away I could hear Kelly talking crap so I went to go back, and Tristan threw my hands behind my head, in like a police hold, and threw me into my bedroom. He asked me what the hell was going on, and all that I asked him was to have Harley and Kelly leave and to leave me alone. He said that wasn't going to happen. He told me to calm down and not to let this ruin our party. After he had thrown me around I was screaming that it was over because he had hurt me and he let Harley do that to me. He finally left. I was still to angry so I grabbed Pocket and left to my friend Robyn's. As I was walking across my lawn I heard Kelly say, "She does this all the time. Why do think nobody invites you to the family parties?" I was like, "Really? Most could say the same about you." She was like, "Come back and say that to my face!" I told her that I would but it wasn't worth me putting my baby down. My baby means more to me.
As I walked to my friend's house I called the police, they got the addys, the names, and understood the situation. I got to Robyn's and I was balling. Her husband got her and she calmed me down. A police officer called me and asked me what was going on. I told him and he said that because the house if half Tristan's I really didn't have a say in whether she had to leave on not. It was a split vote 50-50. I said that was fine I'd stay at Robyn's. He asked for Tristan's phone number. He called Tristan and told Tristan that this sounded like something we could work out and that it simply wasn't worth his time he had better things to do. Tristan called me and told me that he wanted me to come home so that we could talk, and I told him I wasn't going to go home until they were gone. He told me that they were gone, they were at the neighbors. The neighbor lady called me and asked me to come back. She basically told me that I over reacted and that Pocket was ok. The girls weren't hurting him. I tried to explain to her that wasn't the point. I tried to tell her that Pocket's very little and could be hurt easily. I was once that age and my mom had to get rid or her chihuahua cuz even though we didn't mean to, we hurt her and just simply frightened the poor thing cuz we were allot bigger than her. She seemed to understand where I was coming from, and wanted me to come home. I told her the only way I'd come home is if Harley and Kelly left. She said that they were over there and to go home to Tristan. I asked her why they weren't willing to compromise. She was just upsetting me more. So I hung up the phone. I love her to pieces and I didn't want this whole out of control situation to break our friendship up. Tristan kept calling and asking me to go home and work it out. I told him that I was still upset and that I'd be home to talk to him about it all tomorrow. He told me he loved me and we hung up the phone. Robyn gave me some Captain and we talked about it all and then went to bed. I laid there for hours before I feel asleep. I finally did and Robyn's alarm went off. I shut it off and went to sleep. I woke up to breakfast and Tristan calling me to go home. She told me to take him breakfast and work it out. She asked me what I was going to do. I told her that I'm going to have Tristan take my name off the deed until we're married. I'm also going to let Tristan keep Harley as a friend, but I'm not going to have any respect for Harley until he understands where he was wrong in this whole situation and that he understands that, yes I may have attacked Kelly, but where she was also wrong in the situation and why I defended myself.
That's all for now.
Much Love; Austa: Mishia!!!!