NT's are driven by thier minds and distrustful of emotions, that doesn't mean to say they don't have them.
As the Mollster has already attested to, a relationship between NT's is the subject of much analysis. Sometimes too much analysis, to the point where you reach paralysis. You'll find no more reluctant a Prince or Princess than an NT when it comes to romance if there is any uncertianty.
NT's will also sublimate alot of feeling. They may do thier best to bury it, deny it and sometimes get rather overzealous in defence of thier status as 'just friends', all the while, being very much shot through with cherubic arrows. The result is often a tsunami of emotive stuff when the wave actually breaks.
Also... hurt an NT and the distrust of emotion is compounded, so much so that you can end up with a very emotionally scarred and timid person.
Regarding the second part, I will tell you that I have not gotten into relationships with people who seemed good enough to be starters (although in retrospect, certainly not the right person for me) because of lukewarmness or concerns. Dunno if it is my NT-ness, but I am of the "better alone than in bad company" school- and even better alone than in mediocre company. A relative was interested in someone recently who was staying in a mediocre relationship because it offered her security- it was not unhappy because it was not abusive or the sort, but it was not happy or fulfilling either.
If I may please add my two bits (although no-one knows me here), perhaps the term "timid person" could instead be renamed "relationship gun-shy". I do not believe that we NT's become timid from our disappointments, but rather become more and more reluctant to open up our feelings after our hurts begin to add up.
Of course, that's just my opinion.
ps. saeble, you comments were dead on for me. I especially love your use of the word 'sublimate'. Just perfect.
timid - adjective 1. lacking in self-assurance, courage, or bravery; easily alarmed; timorous; shy. 2. characterized by or indicating fear: a timid approach to a problem.
gun shy - adjective 1. frightened by the sound of a gunshot: a gun-shy bird dog. 2. hesitant, wary, or distrustful, esp. because of previous unpleasant experience.
trepidation - noun 1. tremulous fear, alarm, or agitation; perturbation. 2. trembling or quivering movement; tremor.
hmmm... all three could be applicable. I still think I like 'gun shy' the best. Any other suggestions?
As the Mollster has already attested to, a relationship between NT's is the subject of much analysis. Sometimes too much analysis, to the point where you reach paralysis. You'll find no more reluctant a Prince or Princess than an NT when it comes to romance if there is any uncertianty.
NT's will also sublimate alot of feeling. They may do thier best to bury it, deny it and sometimes get rather overzealous in defence of thier status as 'just friends', all the while, being very much shot through with cherubic arrows. The result is often a tsunami of emotive stuff when the wave actually breaks.
Also... hurt an NT and the distrust of emotion is compounded, so much so that you can end up with a very emotionally scarred and timid person.
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I have been hurt, but I am not timid.
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Of course, that's just my opinion.
ps. saeble, you comments were dead on for me. I especially love your use of the word 'sublimate'. Just perfect.
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is 'trepidatious' better ? :)
*bow* whilst I do try for perfection, I don't think I've acheived it yet... ;)
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timid - adjective
1. lacking in self-assurance, courage, or bravery; easily alarmed; timorous; shy.
2. characterized by or indicating fear: a timid approach to a problem.
gun shy - adjective
1. frightened by the sound of a gunshot: a gun-shy bird dog.
2. hesitant, wary, or distrustful, esp. because of previous unpleasant experience.
trepidation - noun
1. tremulous fear, alarm, or agitation; perturbation.
2. trembling or quivering movement; tremor.
hmmm... all three could be applicable. I still think I like 'gun shy' the best. Any other suggestions?
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*doing a little dance*
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