Random meta thought about SPN
Spoilers for Season 5 in this post
I'm not LJ-cutting this. If you haven't seen Season 5, skip the post. :)
So I've been obsessing a bit a lot about the show, specifically about the whole Sam problem ( Read more... )
I'm not LJ-cutting this. If you haven't seen Season 5, skip the post. :)
So I've been obsessing a bit a lot about the show, specifically about the whole Sam problem ( Read more... )
Two more things and then I’ll shush. I don’t think Dean really gets it. In his mind, I think he just thinks that all Sam has to do is say no to the devil. Just like all he had to do was say no to Ruby. Say no to the things that were driving him half out of his mind with visions. It’s all he had to do, really. Why couldn’t the kid have just done it? How hard is it to say no? It’s not like he was on the rack in hell, after all. It’s not like day after day after day he was torn apart and put back together with fire and hatred and pain just so that he could go through it again. It’s not like he was being tortured, for crying out loud, and having someone whisper constantly in his ear “c’mon, just do it, the pain will stop if you just do it, you’re so tired, I know you’re so tired and you hurt, but all you have to do is say yes”. That never happened to Sam. Sure, he had some headaches and some bad dreams and it sucks that the one nice girlfriend he had got roasted, but come on. He just has to say no. I don’t think Dean's gotten to where he understands the constant torment, fear, and despair that Sam is going through. His entire family was torn apart, his childhood insane, and he finds out that, basically, it was all because of and for him. And then, holy crap, there’s the thousand deaths of Dean during the Mystery Spot fiasco. Which, I think, really had to cement the fact that, no matter what Sam does, people are going to suffer. He won’t be the one paying for his mistakes - it’s always someone else. And, oh yeah, great news, the only way to stop the freaking apocalypse that he kick started is if his brother lets himself be hollowed out by an archangel. I think Sam doesn’t have anywhere to go, no hope, and no idea of what to do. He just keeps going because he doesn’t know how to stop and because, no matter how fractured the relationship, he can’t let Dean go.
Which leads me to the last point - those boys are seriously co-dependent. Yeah, Sam took off for Stanford, determined to be his own man, but who knows what that was really like for him? He fell back in with Dean so easily and has shown time and again that he doesn’t do well on his own at all. And, Dean. Oh, Dean. Sure, he and John split up and ran separate jobs, but there’s such a desperate sense in the pilot when he talks about John missing that I got the feeling that they must have stayed in constant contact. Dad’s gone for a week and Dean’s at Sam’s door. Because he can’t find him alone? Maybe. But maybe also because he can’t be alone. And, given how he goes into hawk mode any time Sam’s gone for an unplanned amount of time - even before Ruby - I think it must have twisted his guts into knots while Sam was away. So, they’re stuck together, unable to really be apart, and fuck if they don’t love the hell out each other, but there’s such a wall up between them. What’s it like to be so dependent upon someone and every day wake up to find an impassible barrier between you and them and what you used to be?
I think Dean maybe resents Sam, even if he can’t acknowledge it. And fuck knows Sam resents Dean, resents and hates himself, the demons, the angels, and the God he used to believe in who just fucked off, knowing that all of this was coming down on his head. No matter how in sight of Dean that he stays, I think Sam feels like he’s lost out in the night. And it’s not that there’s no light, there’s too many lights. Too many paths. Only most of them lead off of a precipice and he has no fucking idea what to do or where to go. No matter how he resisted it, dismissed it, or gave it the finger, he’s always had Dean there, pushing him along. And Dean just stands there. Looking at him. Telling him do whatever, man. I don’t give a shit. Just don’t be evil, ok?
This, all of it, of course, being something happening below the surface because it’s not like Dean is very in touch with his feelings. I think he’s so clouded by his own self-loathing that he doesn’t turn his thoughts inward that often. I don’t think he likes what he sees in there, the poor, sweet boy. So he feels so much, but can’t quite acknowledge or dissect it. He just feels it when he looks at Sam and it sucks. It sucks a lot.
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I feel really, really mean for composing such a short reply to your well-thought-out comment.
In short: yes, what you said.
I've been thinking all those things but I was too lazy to write it all down in what was essentially just a throwaway comment about the meaning of forgiveness.
Thank you for putting this so much more eloquently than I ever could.
Poor boys.
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