My new family
Seems like my blogs are fewer and farther between as I get older. So much has happened since I last wrote. Most notably, I got married this last August 22 to Katie and that she is now 13 weeks pregnant. Some of you know that most of my family does not know about both the marriage and the pregnancy, which includes my parents. I'm sorry if this shocks or hurt you to find out this way. I can promise you that my mom will know about it at the soonest opportunity I get. I can go on and on and on on how to justify my actions and some of you might not agree with my decision. After meeting with a friend today, I do know that I did the right thing for what I had to work with at the time and that I would not do it differently if I could go back. The fact of the matter is that my father decided to go on a destructive path in life that has hurt myself and others in my family. I'm tired of the games, the lies and the hurt. I'm tired of his little show he puts on when there are guests at the house. I'm tired of waiting for his apology. I'm tired of this manifesting my own hell on this Earth that my wife has to endure. This is why I decided not to include my family in the wedding. Katie deserved to have her dream wedding without destruction. My friend reminded me that when I took my vows, Katie became my number 1 and as her husband, I am her and my future child's protector. I love my mom and know in my heart that she deserves to be in our lives. I know the very real fact that my father will more than likely not change. But I can choose to take control of my life and to decide not to pass the destruction down to my new family.