Cuddling and women?
Why is it that women assume that men only want one thing?
Women complain all the time about guys not being cuddly enough. Not being intimate, not engaging in foreplay, not being sensual, not wanting to cuddle and snuggle and hug and just be intimate without actual sexual contact.
And yet, when I try to be huggy and snuggley and cuddly, with no expectation of going further at all, I'm automatically labeled as wanting sex. If I cuddle a woman, I MUST want to fuck her. Because I'm a guy and that's all guys want, is sex. Because I'm a guy, and guys only want sex, and no man on the planet wants to cuddle or hug, if I want to hug a woman I must want to rape her, and if I cuddle a woman I must want to rape her. There's no fucking way I just want to have intimacy and closeness without any expectations of sex. Sure, sex would be nice, but that doesn't mean we'd have to have sex if we just hug.
I think the problem is twofold. Women expect their boyfriends to be intimate, but if it's someone they're not dating, it gets uncomfortable. Because of problem number two, which is that women see all men as sex hounds and sexual deviants. If it's the boyfriend, it's okay to cuddle, it's intimate and may lead to other stuff. If it's a non-boyfriend, even if it's a close friend, the woman gets a cold shoulder.
This is the kind of crap I get all the time. If I cuddle a woman, if I hug a woman, if I snuggle, I want sex. Simple as that. The woman sees me as wanting to fuck her and nothing else. I'm just another horny sexual deviant out for pussy. There's no fucking way I could be just a helpless romantic who wants someone to be close to and to hold. I get so many women trying to kick me off like I'm some sex hound off to rape the next virgin it's annoying.
It's like I might as well not even try, if every time I try to be huggy and cuddley with people online I get hostility. I'm even afraid to try IRL now... might be accused of rape or something.
Women complain all the time about guys not being cuddly enough. Not being intimate, not engaging in foreplay, not being sensual, not wanting to cuddle and snuggle and hug and just be intimate without actual sexual contact.
And yet, when I try to be huggy and snuggley and cuddly, with no expectation of going further at all, I'm automatically labeled as wanting sex. If I cuddle a woman, I MUST want to fuck her. Because I'm a guy and that's all guys want, is sex. Because I'm a guy, and guys only want sex, and no man on the planet wants to cuddle or hug, if I want to hug a woman I must want to rape her, and if I cuddle a woman I must want to rape her. There's no fucking way I just want to have intimacy and closeness without any expectations of sex. Sure, sex would be nice, but that doesn't mean we'd have to have sex if we just hug.
I think the problem is twofold. Women expect their boyfriends to be intimate, but if it's someone they're not dating, it gets uncomfortable. Because of problem number two, which is that women see all men as sex hounds and sexual deviants. If it's the boyfriend, it's okay to cuddle, it's intimate and may lead to other stuff. If it's a non-boyfriend, even if it's a close friend, the woman gets a cold shoulder.
This is the kind of crap I get all the time. If I cuddle a woman, if I hug a woman, if I snuggle, I want sex. Simple as that. The woman sees me as wanting to fuck her and nothing else. I'm just another horny sexual deviant out for pussy. There's no fucking way I could be just a helpless romantic who wants someone to be close to and to hold. I get so many women trying to kick me off like I'm some sex hound off to rape the next virgin it's annoying.
It's like I might as well not even try, if every time I try to be huggy and cuddley with people online I get hostility. I'm even afraid to try IRL now... might be accused of rape or something.