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after talking to ben on thursday night i've come to realize that it is impossible to date in downers grove or any of its surrounding areas. every guy seems to be the same, but there are some who stand out.
another thing he got me to think about is how you shouldn't have to work towards making someone have the same feelings for you as you do them. that makes sense to some extent, but when i was talking to kyle about it today he disagreed, which caused me to think more.
okay first off how can someone know you are interested in them unless you pursue them, you know put some time into it? they can't know unless someone tells them and thats not really pursuing them. it is a route i've tried to take but it didnt work. sure you find things out but most of the time you never really know if it's the truth. and it's just awkward being around them, you can't really think so they won't know you're interested.
counter argument- if someone doesn't like you in the first place then why would they if you work on them? here's where bens theory comes into play and the part i agree with. the person should like you for who you are, not who you try to be around them. i'll be the first person to admitt it, when i'm around someone i'm kinda interested in i act different. everyone does whether they like it or not, they probably don't even notice it at times.
this just leads to me being insecure with everything. really if you think about it, why else would i try and act different around any guy because i'm not comfortable with myself. plain and simple. but then there's the things i do like about myself, sure there isn't many, but what there is i cherish and i use it to my full advantage.
so basically i'm fed up with boys. the end
another thing he got me to think about is how you shouldn't have to work towards making someone have the same feelings for you as you do them. that makes sense to some extent, but when i was talking to kyle about it today he disagreed, which caused me to think more.
okay first off how can someone know you are interested in them unless you pursue them, you know put some time into it? they can't know unless someone tells them and thats not really pursuing them. it is a route i've tried to take but it didnt work. sure you find things out but most of the time you never really know if it's the truth. and it's just awkward being around them, you can't really think so they won't know you're interested.
counter argument- if someone doesn't like you in the first place then why would they if you work on them? here's where bens theory comes into play and the part i agree with. the person should like you for who you are, not who you try to be around them. i'll be the first person to admitt it, when i'm around someone i'm kinda interested in i act different. everyone does whether they like it or not, they probably don't even notice it at times.
this just leads to me being insecure with everything. really if you think about it, why else would i try and act different around any guy because i'm not comfortable with myself. plain and simple. but then there's the things i do like about myself, sure there isn't many, but what there is i cherish and i use it to my full advantage.
so basically i'm fed up with boys. the end