Year In Review, 2014
Year in Review
Where did you begin 2014?
Rang it in watching Doctor Who with Adam and Mike. It was the perfect beginning, really.
Did you know anybody who got married?
Quite a few, actually.
Did anyone close to you give birth?
Yes, Keri had her baby this year! Lots of pregnant people right now, too.
Did anyone close to you die?
I did not go to any funerals, but I know of several people who passed on this year. None were super close to me, though.
Where did you travel to and with who?
I went to Georgia with my dad. This year was sadly light on travelling.
Did you move anywhere?
I did not.
What would you like to have in 2015 that you lacked in 2014?
That's a hard question to answer. I want to say "a healthy relationship with my spouse" but Adam has moved out, and I don't think there is any hope for a reconciliation.
What date from 2014 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
December 16th. My entire world crashed down on December 16th, when Adam told me he doesn't love me anymore.
What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I have paid down my college loans and I now owe less than 5,000. Not a lot less, but less!
What was your biggest failure?
The loss of my marriage.
Did you suffer illness or injury?
Migraines continue to be a significant problem, but I have a referral to a neurologist and am resolved to clear up the problem as quickly as possible.
What was the best thing you bought?
My new (to me) car!!! I love her so, so much.
Whose behavior merited celebration?
Mike really stuck with me and helped me get through the first few days when I didn't think I would be able to survive. My darling KT continues to be an immense support, and my sister in law Jessi (who has been through this with Adam's brother) has been wonderful to me through all of this too. My dad also deserves special mention, because of all he did for me in order to find my new car.
Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?
Adam. He gave up on us. I played my part in the destruction of our marriage, but he was the one to walk away instead of working to make it better.
Where did most of your money go?
Propane. Seriously heat is expensive.
What did you get really, really, really excited about?
The fact that my dad went to Georgia to buy me a car, came back to NY when the car was too big to haul, then went BACK to Georgia and drove my car home. Seriously my daddy is amazing.
What song will always remind you of 2014?
One Good Year by Slaid Cleaves
What do you wish you'd done more of?
Talking, listening, crying, opening up. Really all of the things I should have been doing more, in order to save my marriage.
What do you wish you’d done less of?
Being angry. I spent so much of this year angry. If I hadn't, I feel like things would be a lot different.
How will you be spending New Years Eve?
I fell asleep watching TV, and woke up at 11:58pm to the sound of Mike snoring on the couch, and the dogs snoring on the floor. I kissed Gunner's nose and ruffled Aerie's ears, and headed to bed. Not the worst, but not at all how I would like to be celebrating the new year.
Did you fall in love in 2014?
No.
What was your favourite TV program?
The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes, Doctor Who, Big Bang Theory, How I Met Your Mother.
Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
Yes and no, it's complicated.
What was the best book you read?
The Fault In Our Stars by John Green. In addition to loving his work, it also gave me a better perspective on my cousin Bethany's life, as she (like the main character of the book) lived on borrowed time with a terminal illness.
What was your greatest musical discovery?
Pentatonix and Watsky
What did you want and get?
I wanted Adam to fight for me. That's literally all I wanted. And he walked away, instead.
What was your favorite film of this year?
I really enjoyed the Lego Movie
What concerts/shows did you go to?
I went to a few open mics that my dad emceed, and I think they were fantastic.
What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 30, and I worked. But I made myself turkey enchiladas and spent the evening with Adam and Mike.
What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Losing more weight, fixing the issues in my marriage instead of watching it fall apart. (That marriage thing is gonna be a theme....)
How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2014?
Frazzled, still hippie chic but a harder edge to it. Also, my nails have been amazing this year. Thanks, Jamberry!!
Did you change your hairstyle?
Not really, but I am in the process of growing it out. Still not sure I like it longer, but I'm going to see.
What kept you sane?
My dogs, coffee, music, and my friends.
What political issue stirred you the most?
I am so fed up with politics. SO fed up.
Who did you miss?
Houghton people, forever and ever and always.
Who were the best new people you met?
Meeting my friends in Georgia was pretty amazing (since we met online initially) and I've made a few close friends at work and that was pretty cool.
Other than home, where did you spend most of your time?
Work, outside, and with Mike and Laila.
Best month?
February, when I went to Georgia.
Do anything embarrassing?
Fell on my ass, out of a door, at work. I opened the door to let a dog outside and put my foot outside the door, directly onto a patch of ice. I went down like a rock, and did so RIGHT in front of my boss. Who asked what I was doing, and didn't help me up. Oy...
Favorite Night out?
I don't really have a night that stands out in my mind, but I have gotten together with my high school friends a few times this year, and we always have a pretty good time together.
What has been your favorite moment(s)?
Meeting online friends and finding they are just as awesome in person, getting to play with Laila and watching her incredible imagination, quiet afternoons knitting with Gunner asleep on my leg, the moments when Aerie actually prefers to snuggle with me rather than a boy because sometimes you just need your momma.
What's the one thing you thought you would not do but did in 2014?
Go back to my job at the mall. I did temporarily, but thankfully left before the holidays.
Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2014.
You can't fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed, and no amount of love will change that.
Overall, how would you rate this year?
It was a pretty horrible year. I'm ready to put it in the rear view and move along.
Where did you begin 2014?
Rang it in watching Doctor Who with Adam and Mike. It was the perfect beginning, really.
Did you know anybody who got married?
Quite a few, actually.
Did anyone close to you give birth?
Yes, Keri had her baby this year! Lots of pregnant people right now, too.
Did anyone close to you die?
I did not go to any funerals, but I know of several people who passed on this year. None were super close to me, though.
Where did you travel to and with who?
I went to Georgia with my dad. This year was sadly light on travelling.
Did you move anywhere?
I did not.
What would you like to have in 2015 that you lacked in 2014?
That's a hard question to answer. I want to say "a healthy relationship with my spouse" but Adam has moved out, and I don't think there is any hope for a reconciliation.
What date from 2014 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
December 16th. My entire world crashed down on December 16th, when Adam told me he doesn't love me anymore.
What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I have paid down my college loans and I now owe less than 5,000. Not a lot less, but less!
What was your biggest failure?
The loss of my marriage.
Did you suffer illness or injury?
Migraines continue to be a significant problem, but I have a referral to a neurologist and am resolved to clear up the problem as quickly as possible.
What was the best thing you bought?
My new (to me) car!!! I love her so, so much.
Whose behavior merited celebration?
Mike really stuck with me and helped me get through the first few days when I didn't think I would be able to survive. My darling KT continues to be an immense support, and my sister in law Jessi (who has been through this with Adam's brother) has been wonderful to me through all of this too. My dad also deserves special mention, because of all he did for me in order to find my new car.
Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?
Adam. He gave up on us. I played my part in the destruction of our marriage, but he was the one to walk away instead of working to make it better.
Where did most of your money go?
Propane. Seriously heat is expensive.
What did you get really, really, really excited about?
The fact that my dad went to Georgia to buy me a car, came back to NY when the car was too big to haul, then went BACK to Georgia and drove my car home. Seriously my daddy is amazing.
What song will always remind you of 2014?
One Good Year by Slaid Cleaves
What do you wish you'd done more of?
Talking, listening, crying, opening up. Really all of the things I should have been doing more, in order to save my marriage.
What do you wish you’d done less of?
Being angry. I spent so much of this year angry. If I hadn't, I feel like things would be a lot different.
How will you be spending New Years Eve?
I fell asleep watching TV, and woke up at 11:58pm to the sound of Mike snoring on the couch, and the dogs snoring on the floor. I kissed Gunner's nose and ruffled Aerie's ears, and headed to bed. Not the worst, but not at all how I would like to be celebrating the new year.
Did you fall in love in 2014?
No.
What was your favourite TV program?
The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes, Doctor Who, Big Bang Theory, How I Met Your Mother.
Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
Yes and no, it's complicated.
What was the best book you read?
The Fault In Our Stars by John Green. In addition to loving his work, it also gave me a better perspective on my cousin Bethany's life, as she (like the main character of the book) lived on borrowed time with a terminal illness.
What was your greatest musical discovery?
Pentatonix and Watsky
What did you want and get?
I wanted Adam to fight for me. That's literally all I wanted. And he walked away, instead.
What was your favorite film of this year?
I really enjoyed the Lego Movie
What concerts/shows did you go to?
I went to a few open mics that my dad emceed, and I think they were fantastic.
What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 30, and I worked. But I made myself turkey enchiladas and spent the evening with Adam and Mike.
What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Losing more weight, fixing the issues in my marriage instead of watching it fall apart. (That marriage thing is gonna be a theme....)
How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2014?
Frazzled, still hippie chic but a harder edge to it. Also, my nails have been amazing this year. Thanks, Jamberry!!
Did you change your hairstyle?
Not really, but I am in the process of growing it out. Still not sure I like it longer, but I'm going to see.
What kept you sane?
My dogs, coffee, music, and my friends.
What political issue stirred you the most?
I am so fed up with politics. SO fed up.
Who did you miss?
Houghton people, forever and ever and always.
Who were the best new people you met?
Meeting my friends in Georgia was pretty amazing (since we met online initially) and I've made a few close friends at work and that was pretty cool.
Other than home, where did you spend most of your time?
Work, outside, and with Mike and Laila.
Best month?
February, when I went to Georgia.
Do anything embarrassing?
Fell on my ass, out of a door, at work. I opened the door to let a dog outside and put my foot outside the door, directly onto a patch of ice. I went down like a rock, and did so RIGHT in front of my boss. Who asked what I was doing, and didn't help me up. Oy...
Favorite Night out?
I don't really have a night that stands out in my mind, but I have gotten together with my high school friends a few times this year, and we always have a pretty good time together.
What has been your favorite moment(s)?
Meeting online friends and finding they are just as awesome in person, getting to play with Laila and watching her incredible imagination, quiet afternoons knitting with Gunner asleep on my leg, the moments when Aerie actually prefers to snuggle with me rather than a boy because sometimes you just need your momma.
What's the one thing you thought you would not do but did in 2014?
Go back to my job at the mall. I did temporarily, but thankfully left before the holidays.
Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2014.
You can't fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed, and no amount of love will change that.
Overall, how would you rate this year?
It was a pretty horrible year. I'm ready to put it in the rear view and move along.