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I just got in a fight with my mom on the phone because she overheard me jokingly talking to my sister on the phone and calling her the "black sheep" of the family (this was over a week ago). My mom told me that I should not have said that because it makes her feel like she is the black sheep and thus has a negative impact on her and causes her to do negative things.
This pisses me off. She implied that things I say to my sister are things that make her so stupid shit and get in trouble. It bothers me that my parents think I have that much influence on what my sister does and does not decide to do, when in all reality, the exact opposite is true. My sister decided to take a different path than I did, and that's fine. She made some choices that my parents don't agree with, and that's fine with me too. I'm tired of hearing that what I say to her has caused her to do this, or hearing that if I talk to her she will change.
So I said something I should not have said when I was trying to bite my tongue and I told my mom that I think a lot of things she has said to my sister has had a much more significant effect on my sisters choices (and in all honesty, I believe this). My mother is really not the most understanding of people. She has an extremely short temper and when she goes into a rage, there is no stopping her. She will turn into a 10 year-old kid throwing a temper tantrum. When she gets mad, she gets out of control, and I've told her numerous times she needs to see a therapist to help her learn how to deal with her anger. My sister is the same way, and together, they make WW3 in my house.
So then she hung up on me, and I knew she would call back because you cannot get in a fight with my mom and have it end that easily. It will go on for hours (it's exhausting that's why I usually give in and agree to whatever she says). I don't want to call her back. I was in a good mood.
Lame.
This pisses me off. She implied that things I say to my sister are things that make her so stupid shit and get in trouble. It bothers me that my parents think I have that much influence on what my sister does and does not decide to do, when in all reality, the exact opposite is true. My sister decided to take a different path than I did, and that's fine. She made some choices that my parents don't agree with, and that's fine with me too. I'm tired of hearing that what I say to her has caused her to do this, or hearing that if I talk to her she will change.
So I said something I should not have said when I was trying to bite my tongue and I told my mom that I think a lot of things she has said to my sister has had a much more significant effect on my sisters choices (and in all honesty, I believe this). My mother is really not the most understanding of people. She has an extremely short temper and when she goes into a rage, there is no stopping her. She will turn into a 10 year-old kid throwing a temper tantrum. When she gets mad, she gets out of control, and I've told her numerous times she needs to see a therapist to help her learn how to deal with her anger. My sister is the same way, and together, they make WW3 in my house.
So then she hung up on me, and I knew she would call back because you cannot get in a fight with my mom and have it end that easily. It will go on for hours (it's exhausting that's why I usually give in and agree to whatever she says). I don't want to call her back. I was in a good mood.
Lame.