How do you get over that stump...
I've recently been dealing with an issue I don't understand how to overcome. I don't typically like to go in depth on the subject of my childhood and the atrocity that occured back then but... it is interfering in my sex life. The problem I am having is the reocurring flash of that blue windbreaker being held over my face and that horrible feeling of being unable to get enough air. It's just a flash but, it makes my body tighten up and my muscles twist and turn till they cramp causing a slight amount of pain. Naturally I also end up feeling like there isn't enough air in the room and I don't want anyone to touch me. It's been happening most unfortunately right around the time when I want to be intimate. I really don't know what I can do to help myself with this. Don't say therapists or counselors they aren't worth the time or money. It is not as though there is anything he is doing that is triggering the reaction. It is just like waking from a nightmare with the images still fresh in your mind but, you are already awake. Any suggestions ??