Think Long
I worry about my friend F.
He started working here last summer and we've spoken almost constantly ever since. We've become really close.
He recently proposed to his girlfriend, but I can read him and I know that he's not particularly fond of her. I'm sure he loves her...I doubt he would lie about that, but I don't think he likes her very much. For instance, he was a vegan for 10 years, and most of his friends are vegan as well. A good chunk of the guests obviously have special food needs, but she refuses to add any vegan options because it will inconvenience her. I'm not sure how it would, but that's what she claims.
She is also adamently against breastfeeding. It's her body and it's her prerogative--I don't want to judge, but the problem is that Frank really wants his children to be breastfed. There are so many health benefits for the baby and the mother, and he feels pretty strongly about it. Childrearing is a pretty important issue for two married people to agree on (probably THE most important!) And they can't seem to get on the same page. The worst part is that she refuses because she thinks its "perverted" for a baby to want to suck on its mother's nipple, as though it's sexually deviant for wanting what comes naturally.
She's set him up to be unfaithful. He's positively forbidden to speak to other women. I have a perfectly platonic friendship with Frank. In fact, he spends most of his time talking about her, and I spend most of my time talking about my boy problems with him. He wants me to teach him how to knit beanies, but he's afraid that he'll have to lie to explain how he learned. He often complains that he can't spend time with his friends (male and female alike) because she has such a strong grip on his life.
I've never met her, so I only know what he tells me. It may be a bit biased, but based on what I hear, I'm worried about him. He's been through so much. He was married once before and the divorce began 3 months after the honeymoon. He started dating this girl months before the divorce was final, and I worry that he just wants to move on as quickly as possible.
I'm sure it's unfair for me to be making these judgments, but I just want him to end up happy.