I'd leave. Mostly cause if I were married to a man, I'd be looking for the first door out, and I'd be wondering where exactly I got these children from in the first place. Anyway, the point is, I don't want to be married to a man.
But seriously, despite what the peanut gallery has consensed on, I think there are strong arguments for staying. Mostly because it's what you're used to, and it's hard to do things that are so different and so far from what you're used to, especially when what other people (i.e. the children) are used is also involved. Change takes preparation, and preparation is not frequently an option when you make decisions of such weight and magnitude as Leaving. However, kicking him out is a much more viable option. But leaving, I think, is an option that requires a certain amount of star-alignment to work out. A more realistic choice is to stay together in a loveless cohabitation: the fine line there, however, is walking the line of trust, mistrust, and distrust in such a way that the children can have valuable and meaningful relationships later on.
But seriously, despite what the peanut gallery has consensed on, I think there are strong arguments for staying. Mostly because it's what you're used to, and it's hard to do things that are so different and so far from what you're used to, especially when what other people (i.e. the children) are used is also involved. Change takes preparation, and preparation is not frequently an option when you make decisions of such weight and magnitude as Leaving. However, kicking him out is a much more viable option. But leaving, I think, is an option that requires a certain amount of star-alignment to work out. A more realistic choice is to stay together in a loveless cohabitation: the fine line there, however, is walking the line of trust, mistrust, and distrust in such a way that the children can have valuable and meaningful relationships later on.
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