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WHAT IS THIS? I DON'T EVEN (Trigger warning)

Apr 13, 2010 18:55

( Kiely Williams Celebrates Date Rape With 'Spectacular'. )

sad and awful, sexual assault, what could possibly go wrong, stop being offended gawd!, holy shit, popular culture, what the fuck, fuck this i need alcohol, why would you do that, stupid people, some people just don't think at all

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arabwel April 13 2010, 23:11:26 UTC

asrrrrrgh.

drunk unprotected sex =! date rape. HOW FUCKING HARD IS IT TO DIFFERENTIATE BETWEEN DRUNK ENOUGH TO SAY YES TO THE WRONG PERSON/WRONG ACT AND DRUNK ENOUGH TO BE INCAPABVLE OF SAYING YES OR NO?!?!!!!

lady_alyria April 14 2010, 00:51:44 UTC

If you are too drunk to know if you blacked out or not, you are too drunk to consent.

arabwel April 14 2010, 01:10:07 UTC

No disagreement from me on that. (although I would argue it can be hard for other people to tell when someone is that intoxicated - which is one of those things that makes drunken sexual relations as a whole problematic :/ )

What I meant although probably did not convey well enough is, there is a difference between making bad choices when being intoxicated and being assaulted while intoxicated. And by bad choices I mean choosing to have sex with someone you might regret having sex with - not any of the "should have known better than X she has only herself to blame" bullshit. Alcohol lowers inhibitions and yeah, sometimes you end up in a situation wher eyou have to suck it up and live with what you did - but it NEVER is an excuse for having to live with something someone else did.

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arabwel April 14 2010, 01:22:53 UTC

I'm addresing the "The fact is, that sometimes women get intoxicated and have unprotected sex. My video puts this issue front and center. " bit in the backpedal-y part

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arabwel April 14 2010, 01:25:55 UTC

No worries. this happens, especially in a comminity where eberyone is pretty much seeing red already...

arabwel April 14 2010, 01:25:10 UTC

Pressed enter a bit too soon...

the song itself clearly is about a non-consenting sexual encounter. Just because "she liked it!" does not make it okay - and trying to equate it with drunken ill-advised sex is pure victim blaming.

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