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some things i'll just never understand.like how you love someone and just can't stop loveing them..and even if its not a romantic love...its just a love, an intense care of someone and their feelings.
i think thats what happens to alot of married people they start off 'in love'..a passionate...feeling you'll do anything for them..they are an excitment to you...a joy...and your heart literly dances for the other person...but then as time goes on you become comfortable with eachother...and you just plain 'love' them...passion might be dimmed a bit...the excitment might have faded...you pretty much know this person inside and out..what makes them happy/sad...how to push their buttons and make it ok afterwards...you can become in a routine..and just become these 'friends' that live together almost roomates..that kiss eachother goodbye or goodnight.
as this is going through my brian right now im wonder how people can be in a reletionship for so long..like 5 years..dateing then decide they want to marry...well now what ...youve become comfortable and unless you have certin morals of staying pure until marriage then most likely youve already had sex...which then really makes your reletionship of 5 years is not so exciting (well at least to me..it would seem this way) i think the exciting part about marriage is getting to learn about the other person...and i really believe this keeps the excitment and passion in the marriage...
in my dreams this would be how things would go for me...i would be friends with this dude first..we'd hang out with friends and totally enjoy eachother...we'd continue with our lives...we'd keep in contact and they'd be that person in the back of your head..always wondering what they're doing...id never really know how he'd felt about me...and somehow God would guide us together...and randomly out of now where..without a dateing reletionship hed ask me to be his wife and probably have our first kiss at that moment...and its be ok because hed been already praying about this ..and so would i have. i wish that we both kind of knew the whole time but God had plans for us and we obeyed until Gods perfect timing...and with this sort of reletionship we'd know enough about eachother and we knew we would love eachother fully..and all the rest we'd learn on the way..with Gods guidence.sort of like Elisabeth Elliot and Jim Elliot...such a beautiful story of waiting on the Lord.
this has been on my mind for the last 3 days.this blog went in a strange direction.
i think thats what happens to alot of married people they start off 'in love'..a passionate...feeling you'll do anything for them..they are an excitment to you...a joy...and your heart literly dances for the other person...but then as time goes on you become comfortable with eachother...and you just plain 'love' them...passion might be dimmed a bit...the excitment might have faded...you pretty much know this person inside and out..what makes them happy/sad...how to push their buttons and make it ok afterwards...you can become in a routine..and just become these 'friends' that live together almost roomates..that kiss eachother goodbye or goodnight.
as this is going through my brian right now im wonder how people can be in a reletionship for so long..like 5 years..dateing then decide they want to marry...well now what ...youve become comfortable and unless you have certin morals of staying pure until marriage then most likely youve already had sex...which then really makes your reletionship of 5 years is not so exciting (well at least to me..it would seem this way) i think the exciting part about marriage is getting to learn about the other person...and i really believe this keeps the excitment and passion in the marriage...
in my dreams this would be how things would go for me...i would be friends with this dude first..we'd hang out with friends and totally enjoy eachother...we'd continue with our lives...we'd keep in contact and they'd be that person in the back of your head..always wondering what they're doing...id never really know how he'd felt about me...and somehow God would guide us together...and randomly out of now where..without a dateing reletionship hed ask me to be his wife and probably have our first kiss at that moment...and its be ok because hed been already praying about this ..and so would i have. i wish that we both kind of knew the whole time but God had plans for us and we obeyed until Gods perfect timing...and with this sort of reletionship we'd know enough about eachother and we knew we would love eachother fully..and all the rest we'd learn on the way..with Gods guidence.sort of like Elisabeth Elliot and Jim Elliot...such a beautiful story of waiting on the Lord.
this has been on my mind for the last 3 days.this blog went in a strange direction.