what the hell?

[rae418]

Ok, now here's something that has mystified me for a while...maybe some of you have more insight into this than I do. Why is it that every time I try to be friends with a guy, who by all accounts should want to be my friend, I get blown off? These are people that I really want to give more credit to than to think that just because I'm not a

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[wolf_boomer]

Q: How do I know if I meet someone (who happens to be male) who WOULD want to be my friend?
A: They try to contact and talk to you when you dont try. Now there is always a cat and mouse thing about who should call who or talk to who first but in the end its all bullshit cause if you call them to much you will give em a ego and a male with a ego is just a step away from being a male asshole and visa versa with a woman. It also matters on their personal prefrence. I have friends and feel the way sometimes when ive just been burnt out by women. Its not to say men and women cant hang out but alot of the times its like we have to walk on egg shells around women cause alot of the time we are crude and non mannered. Are they looking for more friends, sometimes a persons reaches a carrying capacity for friends and just has no desire to create and maintain a friends relationship with another person? Does the person ONLY want sexual stuff? There are many reasons why, some stupid and some not so. It could be a time issuse or internal personal issues.

I guess the answer to all of this is you wont definitly know. Its just start at one possible reason they wouldnt wanna be your friend and keep moving. If they call you to talk thats a start. If they wanna hang thats crossing another line and so on. But at any point you could reach the line they dont wanna cross and either be forced to stay at the distance yall have reached or have them completely pull back and out of your life.

not really a answer.. but hopefully a bit more clarity to the situation

wb

[rae418]

Very interesting. This definitely does help clarify a lot. I think you are probably on target with whether they actually want more friends or not. Perhaps in these situations the answer is no and I just assume that because I have room for me they would also. Thanks for your insight.

[wolf_boomer]

ive had a lot of time to sit and watch and listen to people. i think what sucks about people is the fact that getting a definite thing is almost impossible. Ill say one thing and do another. Ill think i should do one thing and do the oppisite. rather annoying actually...

wb