This is really really awful and first I want to say I'm sorry you're dealing with this because you seem like someone a lot of people would want to be friends with. My advice (which you are by no means required to follow :P) is to talk to her. Maybe telling her what you said in this post will make her realize she's been snubbing you and making you feel bad. It is a definite possibility that she is oblivious to this. If you two have been friends for an extended amount of time and hung out a lot, then maybe she feels so secure with your friendship that when you don't always hang out, she assumes things are okaay. I'm not sure if what I last said made sense, but I hope this helps a little and that things get better for you.
Thank you *hugs* I'm so very terrible at confronting people, but I do know that I need to tell her something otherwise this situation will just keeping going around and around. I definitely can't expect her to change when she has been this way since I've known her, so expecting differently is always going to set me up for disappointment; however, I do just really want to be told if plans aren't happening so I'm not left sitting about by myself.
And I assure you, oblivious might as well be my best friends name. I love her dearly, but she is very unaware of a lot of things, so I think that's what happens. I just need to figure out a way to approach her about this without her getting annoyed or making me out to be the bad guy. All very daunting! We've been friends since 7th grade, so almost 8 years now.
Don't look at it as a confrontation, that may help. There's nothing wrong with wanting some notification! :)
Ha, I've had friends like that and giving them a bit of a wake up call of "hey, i'm here!" usually snaps them back. 8 years? That's awesome. Knowing each other for so long will be helpful. Think on it for a bit and find the best way to approach her about this and things will go well. <3
Normally we don't speak about anything more than Harry Potter or what is annoying us, haha, so I'll try to think of it as the first emotional based conversation we've had in a long time :)
I sure hope so! :) Most of my awesome experiences in the past few years have usually included her, I just don't want to be the friend she thinks of as the one who will go with you to these big events and then never really talk to. I don't think we've gotten to that point yet, but its still worrying. So I'm hoping a little talk will set things back into awesome best friend territory :)
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And I assure you, oblivious might as well be my best friends name. I love her dearly, but she is very unaware of a lot of things, so I think that's what happens. I just need to figure out a way to approach her about this without her getting annoyed or making me out to be the bad guy. All very daunting! We've been friends since 7th grade, so almost 8 years now.
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Ha, I've had friends like that and giving them a bit of a wake up call of "hey, i'm here!" usually snaps them back. 8 years? That's awesome. Knowing each other for so long will be helpful. Think on it for a bit and find the best way to approach her about this and things will go well. <3
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I sure hope so! :) Most of my awesome experiences in the past few years have usually included her, I just don't want to be the friend she thinks of as the one who will go with you to these big events and then never really talk to. I don't think we've gotten to that point yet, but its still worrying. So I'm hoping a little talk will set things back into awesome best friend territory :)
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