Not an over-reaction at all. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable, even if that's not their intent, then it's perfectly natural to want them to STOP IT. Also, this is your work environment - you have the right to feel safe and secure in your space.
Should it happen again in the future, it's probably better to go for the former option; tell them in the politest possible fashion that you don't find that appropriate. Ignoring them won't put across the message that their behaviour is inappropriate anything LIKE as clearly as actually asking them to stop.
I would hope that most people acting like this are just trying to be friendly and don't realise they're acting in an unwanted fashion, so a brief professional deterrent should do the trick. They'll probably feel bad for making you feel bad. And if they carry on after you've asked them to stop, then they're a dick and deserve to get in whatever trouble you see fit to rain down upon them (uh, as in talking to their supervisor, not as in pouring flaming oil on them).
Oh, but that doesn't mean you did wrong by contacting the accounts manager afterward. As I said, hopefully he was just misguided and didn't realise you were uncomfortable, and that message will get to him and he'll feel bad and not do it in future.
TL;DR version - you did not over-react. If it happens again, politely ask them to stop. ^_^
Should it happen again in the future, it's probably better to go for the former option; tell them in the politest possible fashion that you don't find that appropriate. Ignoring them won't put across the message that their behaviour is inappropriate anything LIKE as clearly as actually asking them to stop.
I would hope that most people acting like this are just trying to be friendly and don't realise they're acting in an unwanted fashion, so a brief professional deterrent should do the trick. They'll probably feel bad for making you feel bad. And if they carry on after you've asked them to stop, then they're a dick and deserve to get in whatever trouble you see fit to rain down upon them (uh, as in talking to their supervisor, not as in pouring flaming oil on them).
Oh, but that doesn't mean you did wrong by contacting the accounts manager afterward. As I said, hopefully he was just misguided and didn't realise you were uncomfortable, and that message will get to him and he'll feel bad and not do it in future.
TL;DR version - you did not over-react. If it happens again, politely ask them to stop. ^_^
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