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So, twas around four months ago when i last made an entry. Apologies for the lack of activity.
To bring you up to speed, me and Chris have been a couple for almost 4months now. I did my college exams, still don't have the results. and went on holiday to Majorca. I'll ramble about those later, the most complicated issue will be discussed first.
Chris is getting more and more clingy by the day. I was warned about this before i started going out with him. I brushed it off, thinking it wouldn't happen, and if it did it wouldn't bother me. I think i'd been single for so long (almost a year) that i just wanted a relationship...
For the first couple of months, he was great, he made me feel special and wanted and wasn't all that clingy, bought me flowers etc. I still had my free space, and i was happy. But now, now he wants to see me for every second of the day and constantly tries to kiss/cuddle me and everything else. Its gotten to the point of it being claustraphobic. And then he guilt trips me quite often too. For instance, i'm taking my brother to see Muse in Sheffield as a surprise christmas present. Its part of my plan to stop me and him arguing so much and to try and get on. so i thought some quality time going to and from the concert would be a pretty good start. Anyhow chris invited himself along.. he said "ooh i'll come too, i'll bring lawrence (his brother) coz he loves muse too!" and he already knew that i wanted to go alone with my brother, and when i reiterated this point to him, he just looked at me and said "well i'll just have to get lawrence something ELSE won't i" in a real guilt trip voice. It pissed me off so much because i told him in the first place when i told him of my idea that i wanted to go alone! Instance no.2 we were in town shopping, and we were gonna go for a meal but we weren't sure where, and he really wanted to go to this chinese restaurant, and because i didn't want to (on account of my stomach felt abit weird and i didn't fancy eating foreign food on a dodgy stomach) he had a complete stress about how he wanted to go. He's constantly wanting attention. Sometimes i feel like his goddamn mother!
Anyway, its now got to the point of where i have to keep making excuses not to see him because of the amount of time he wants to spend with me. And all he does is piss me off even when he's not really doing much. I had a chat with my friend Nicola, who works with him (and incidentally was the one who warned me about him) and she said he won't change, so its better for her to have a chat with him about his clingyness and see if he tries to change. If i'd have told him he'd have gone psycho paranoid and gotten upset and cried (yes, cried....he cried the other day because he thought he'd pissed me off). If he doesn't change then i'm going to have to end with him because i can't stand this any longer. The stupid thing is i feel guilty about all this because he does the whole entrapment thing, whereas he'll say "you're not going to dump me when i get back from holiday are you? EVERYONE dumps me when i get back off holiday" and i can hardly say "well actually yeah i am!" can i? so i have to say no. He says stuff like it all the time and when it comes to the crunch of me ending it, if i do, it's going to make me look like a COMPLETE liar.
I'll update more tomorrow as i've ran out of time and need to get ready for work :(
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To bring you up to speed, me and Chris have been a couple for almost 4months now. I did my college exams, still don't have the results. and went on holiday to Majorca. I'll ramble about those later, the most complicated issue will be discussed first.
Chris is getting more and more clingy by the day. I was warned about this before i started going out with him. I brushed it off, thinking it wouldn't happen, and if it did it wouldn't bother me. I think i'd been single for so long (almost a year) that i just wanted a relationship...
For the first couple of months, he was great, he made me feel special and wanted and wasn't all that clingy, bought me flowers etc. I still had my free space, and i was happy. But now, now he wants to see me for every second of the day and constantly tries to kiss/cuddle me and everything else. Its gotten to the point of it being claustraphobic. And then he guilt trips me quite often too. For instance, i'm taking my brother to see Muse in Sheffield as a surprise christmas present. Its part of my plan to stop me and him arguing so much and to try and get on. so i thought some quality time going to and from the concert would be a pretty good start. Anyhow chris invited himself along.. he said "ooh i'll come too, i'll bring lawrence (his brother) coz he loves muse too!" and he already knew that i wanted to go alone with my brother, and when i reiterated this point to him, he just looked at me and said "well i'll just have to get lawrence something ELSE won't i" in a real guilt trip voice. It pissed me off so much because i told him in the first place when i told him of my idea that i wanted to go alone! Instance no.2 we were in town shopping, and we were gonna go for a meal but we weren't sure where, and he really wanted to go to this chinese restaurant, and because i didn't want to (on account of my stomach felt abit weird and i didn't fancy eating foreign food on a dodgy stomach) he had a complete stress about how he wanted to go. He's constantly wanting attention. Sometimes i feel like his goddamn mother!
Anyway, its now got to the point of where i have to keep making excuses not to see him because of the amount of time he wants to spend with me. And all he does is piss me off even when he's not really doing much. I had a chat with my friend Nicola, who works with him (and incidentally was the one who warned me about him) and she said he won't change, so its better for her to have a chat with him about his clingyness and see if he tries to change. If i'd have told him he'd have gone psycho paranoid and gotten upset and cried (yes, cried....he cried the other day because he thought he'd pissed me off). If he doesn't change then i'm going to have to end with him because i can't stand this any longer. The stupid thing is i feel guilty about all this because he does the whole entrapment thing, whereas he'll say "you're not going to dump me when i get back from holiday are you? EVERYONE dumps me when i get back off holiday" and i can hardly say "well actually yeah i am!" can i? so i have to say no. He says stuff like it all the time and when it comes to the crunch of me ending it, if i do, it's going to make me look like a COMPLETE liar.
I'll update more tomorrow as i've ran out of time and need to get ready for work :(
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