Inpartial advice
Guys I need some inpartial advice. I never come on here anymore but i feel i need people to help me who i dont know.
My fiance and I have more or less split up. This is because
a few weeks ago he started a different job where for the next 3months he is working 2-10 mon-fri, i only see him at weekends and even then he has football and stuff which he goes to watch which i dont mind. But the time we do spend we obviously want it to be nice. Before he started this job i saw him every single day from when i finished work till the next day,
Now, the weekend before he started this job, I found out a girl from work had added him on facebook, and the ppl on here who know about fb, will know when u add a friend it comes up on the front screen "so and so" and So and So" are friends. Now he deleted this so I couldnt see it. He also deleted a message between him and her so I did not see it. When i asked him about this he said he dint want me to see it because he thought i would go mad. Now i dont have a problem with this lass from work at all, and i see it as everyone adds u on fb everyone u have ever known. SO i was very unhappy that he had lied to me and tried to hide this from me and it did cause a big argument in which he just wanted to forget but i couldnt, am i unreasonable???
We got over this incident.
Since this time its been about 4weeks into this job. I feel he hardly makes an effort to speak to me when he has the chance. Now since this job, iv felt myself go very downhill, i have mon-fri to myself which im so not used to and although i see friends some nights its strange and therefore is getting me very down. Iv confided in alex this and told him id like him to make a bit more of an effort cos i can feel myself gettin really down. To which he said he would, now i dont feel i can tell a difference, but that just could be me. Also in the back of my mind i keep thinkin is he lyin about other things. If i ask him he has a go at me for not trustin him. I know he would never ever cheat on me but the fact is its the little things he lies about that worry me.
Now today, he came over and told me his sister had broken her phone. I then said i gues she will be wantin my old one then. he said yes is that ok, i said what difference does it make cos u will already have given it her. he went on to say he hadnt n all this. I said i only wanted to be asked n he kept sayin she hasnt got it yet. i told him to promise and he couldnt so another lie. he had infact given her the phone and lied to my face about it i know its small and so stupid but i just keep thinkin is he lyin about more things??he lied to my face i just think what else could he be lyin about
iv always been insecure and he knows this but its ended as a massive row in which he has told me he doesnt think he loves me anymore cos i dont make an effort. i tried tellin hi again that im down and really need reassurance from him but now he says he cant believe i love him cos of how i am.
i dont know what to do,,,now honestly, am i over reactin?? If i am i need to know
Sorry if this makes no sense i just need some advice!!
My fiance and I have more or less split up. This is because
a few weeks ago he started a different job where for the next 3months he is working 2-10 mon-fri, i only see him at weekends and even then he has football and stuff which he goes to watch which i dont mind. But the time we do spend we obviously want it to be nice. Before he started this job i saw him every single day from when i finished work till the next day,
Now, the weekend before he started this job, I found out a girl from work had added him on facebook, and the ppl on here who know about fb, will know when u add a friend it comes up on the front screen "so and so" and So and So" are friends. Now he deleted this so I couldnt see it. He also deleted a message between him and her so I did not see it. When i asked him about this he said he dint want me to see it because he thought i would go mad. Now i dont have a problem with this lass from work at all, and i see it as everyone adds u on fb everyone u have ever known. SO i was very unhappy that he had lied to me and tried to hide this from me and it did cause a big argument in which he just wanted to forget but i couldnt, am i unreasonable???
We got over this incident.
Since this time its been about 4weeks into this job. I feel he hardly makes an effort to speak to me when he has the chance. Now since this job, iv felt myself go very downhill, i have mon-fri to myself which im so not used to and although i see friends some nights its strange and therefore is getting me very down. Iv confided in alex this and told him id like him to make a bit more of an effort cos i can feel myself gettin really down. To which he said he would, now i dont feel i can tell a difference, but that just could be me. Also in the back of my mind i keep thinkin is he lyin about other things. If i ask him he has a go at me for not trustin him. I know he would never ever cheat on me but the fact is its the little things he lies about that worry me.
Now today, he came over and told me his sister had broken her phone. I then said i gues she will be wantin my old one then. he said yes is that ok, i said what difference does it make cos u will already have given it her. he went on to say he hadnt n all this. I said i only wanted to be asked n he kept sayin she hasnt got it yet. i told him to promise and he couldnt so another lie. he had infact given her the phone and lied to my face about it i know its small and so stupid but i just keep thinkin is he lyin about more things??he lied to my face i just think what else could he be lyin about
iv always been insecure and he knows this but its ended as a massive row in which he has told me he doesnt think he loves me anymore cos i dont make an effort. i tried tellin hi again that im down and really need reassurance from him but now he says he cant believe i love him cos of how i am.
i dont know what to do,,,now honestly, am i over reactin?? If i am i need to know
Sorry if this makes no sense i just need some advice!!