From my experiences, with my wife, which is different from any other coupling I've had previous, I would say your postulate tests true.
My wife and I are unique in my past relationships in that, we became friends long before we became lovers. My initial proposal was almost worthy of getting me kicked out of the 'romantic' category of characterization permanently.
But, it wasn't the point. It wasn't even a noteworthy moment, I don't think, compared to the inevitability that no matter what, she and I would be a positive part of each others life for the rest of those periods, for as long as those lives were shared.
One doesn't get excited over ice melting on a hot day. I mean, it's inevitable.
But that's hardly chipping the paint of what that relationship is, and how it makes us feel, and how it deepens, and how many people marvel at how we love each other as often as we seem to disregard and ignore the countless and often constant reinforcements most couples seem required to bestow and shower upon each other.
They simply aren't needed.
Our relationship was never based on sex, inspired by desire, or developed out of a need for self-gratification. It's that we became best friends, loved each other as friends, people we wanted to spend time with, because we understood and trusted each other.
The rest is just trappings, though mind you, some of those trappings are pretty damn mind-blowing enjoyable! And every day, I realize I haven't realized fully how deeply I love her. And every night, I look forward to finding out just how deep it is when I wake the next day.
My wife and I are unique in my past relationships in that, we became friends long before we became lovers. My initial proposal was almost worthy of getting me kicked out of the 'romantic' category of characterization permanently.
But, it wasn't the point. It wasn't even a noteworthy moment, I don't think, compared to the inevitability that no matter what, she and I would be a positive part of each others life for the rest of those periods, for as long as those lives were shared.
One doesn't get excited over ice melting on a hot day. I mean, it's inevitable.
But that's hardly chipping the paint of what that relationship is, and how it makes us feel, and how it deepens, and how many people marvel at how we love each other as often as we seem to disregard and ignore the countless and often constant reinforcements most couples seem required to bestow and shower upon each other.
They simply aren't needed.
Our relationship was never based on sex, inspired by desire, or developed out of a need for self-gratification. It's that we became best friends, loved each other as friends, people we wanted to spend time with, because we understood and trusted each other.
The rest is just trappings, though mind you, some of those trappings are pretty damn mind-blowing enjoyable! And every day, I realize I haven't realized fully how deeply I love her. And every night, I look forward to finding out just how deep it is when I wake the next day.
~Jera
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