So there's a pretty cool social networking site for kinks and fetishists. It's polite respectable and has never done me wrong. However, it's not for everyone and if you get offended by things like that don't even think about clicking the link.
http://fetlife.com/sit_on_santas_lap The kink community merchants at large basically donated gifts to help stock the kinky santa's toy bag. So if you like the stuff tell them what you want :)
Besides fetlife in general is a good outlet to finding and hanging out with like minded ndviduals. :)