For Everyone, but particularly for some... you will know who you are once you read this. One of my friends who lost a child last year was asked if she was going to light a candle or go to a service on Sunday... didn't know what the other person was talking about. Apparently there is a worldwide holiday candlelighting by The Compassionate Friends, a bereavement group, for all families that have lost children, no matter the age. There are almost 400 group candlelightings, or you can do it at home, 7 PM local time, dec 9. And then I saw the info in Dear Abby yesterday.. it has all the links to the organization.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/ucda/20071202/lf_ucda/womansaysthanksbutnothankstoholidaygifts