A post on a whim... Related to namaste post made a while back

[quiet_screaming]

So I'm going through and looking at people's pages that I know online that I haven't talked to in ages and something occurs to me

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[healygoofy]

comfort

[childe]

Not very into that whole specific thing, eh? ;)

[quiet_screaming]

But how? How do people comfort you? What do you find comforting?

What are the things people can do to repel you?

[healygoofy]

its not really a matter of what they do to comfort me its a feeling I have or get around certan people. if I feel comfortible around someone I know that they are worth my time I guess you would say..... case in point white Jimmy, never really felt comfort around him. He seemed to have to much to prove, like a few others I'm not going to state. Or theres that one up thing that really urks me, thus making me uncomfortible I guess.........

[childe]

I expect people to move forward. I expect people to grow and change as life presents them with challenges and lessons to learn.

It takes a lot to become un-friended, so to speak. I can not speak with you for years and still consider you a friend.

Betrayal will do it, but only if it's with no remorse. It's likely tied in with that whole changing and growing thing.

You ask some deep questions, sir, and I don't feel that I can adequately answer them, but there's my attempt.

[quiet_screaming]

I honestly do not think it is that deep of a question. But I think it is important to think about/realize.

[childe]

I think you and I have had this conversation in the last few months. I've had a bit of a conflict over what qualities I want in friends, which disqualify people... and every time I decide, someone I want to keep as a friend would be disqualified, so to speak.

There doesn't seem to be a universal rule here at all.

[commodoresexual]

I want people to know when to leave me the hell alone. I want to know that my personal mental space is going to be respected, ie., don't push me when it's clear I am not in the mood to be pushed. Don't guilt me into things - ask nice and if you really know me and know how highly distracted I am - make sure to ask twice. Be patient - I am sometimes not the easiest person to be friends with - but I am a good friend. If you don't hear from me, know that it's not that I don't love you, or don't miss you. I do. Figure that my life has yet again overwhelmed me, and let me have the time to figure that out.

How's that, babe?

[quiet_screaming]

Pretty darned good. I also like how everyone has interpeted the question differently.