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For years, I have seen so many friends jump from relationship to relationship, simply for the necessity to depend on another person and escape lonliness. Whether they realize it or not, always being in a co-dependent relationship is extremely unhealthy. I don't mean to say this to be mean or cruel, but I'd like possible be helpful. I learned that in order to be in a relationship, you have to be happy with yourself, you have to love yourself, you have to possess great mental well-being and you have to realize that you can only make yourself happy. When one says that they are incomplete without another, that only leads to the assumption that they are not completely whole or happy with themselves. It may be just a romantic gesture or saying, but look at the word "incomplete" very closely. What does that say to you? Does it say that you are truly in love with the other person, or does it just verify the fact that you can't be without another for the sake of security? I'm not targeting this towards anyone specifically, but I'd like to say that when you and a significant other are no longer together, take time to get to know yourself, take time to get to know your surroundings, take time to explore all of the wonderful advantages of life, take time to heal. Do not take the time to dwell on the fact that you're lonely and you desperately need to use another to escape that pain. That's not love, that's hurting both of you. I would personally love to be in a relationship with another person, I really would. However, I'm extremely happy where I am in life. I have a wonderful family, a home, a decent job and I have school to worry about. I'm in no rush to readily commit all of my time and energy to another person, although I have a lot of love and affection to give. When the time is right, I know I'll find a good guy, and I know I'll be ready for a relationship, because I will know by then that I'm ready to take on all of the complications of love.

Overall guys, please, learn to love yourselves, learn to respect yourselves and learn to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are deserving of the best that life has to offer. Don't think of singlehood as a road to depression or lonliness. Think of it as a vacation, a time of freedom, a time to explore.

<3 Heather