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I read something called an "ode to the nice girls" in somebody's livejournal and it was inspiring and I could relate to it incredibly well. Therefore, the written work inspired me to write something similar.
An insight to the true nice girl.
The stereotypically perceived "nice girl" is the one who remains a virgin till marriage, views the world in an optimistic light, is known as everybody's sweetheart, never skips a day of Sunday School or Grammar School, and believes that modesty is the key. However, numerous others, such as myself, contend with the stereotype. Men often pine over the theory that all girls want the bad boys and that they wish they could just find a beautiful nice girl to settle down with, yet nobody special has crossed their way. What is the true definition of a "nice girl"? What are the qualifications and factors that separate the good from the bad or the nice and the mean? Perhaps, the aforementioned stereotypes include factors that create the nice girl but most likely not limited to those factors.
The nice girl does not see herself as anything but imperfect. When she first wakes up in the morning and shuffles her feet to the mirror, she notices every blemish, every flaw and does not realize that the imperfections are a natural part of being human. When she watches television or attends school, she timidly falls into the shadow of beautiful super models or Abercrombie girls or the prom queen.She fails to see her true beauty, despite the support given to her from her friends. Friends may tell her, "you just need a boost of confidence" or "you are so beautiful I wish I could be like you." As altruistic as the gestures and kind words may seem, the nice girl continues to fail to see the beauty queen or the super model within her because she has become her biggest critic.She attempts to give herself a confidence boost and walks proudly into the public feeling extremely good about herself, but when she takes a look at her surroundings, she automatically reverts to the girl with no self-confidence or esteem. The words that most likely come to mind at least several times a week are "nobody understands me." Unfortunately, the motive behind the fixation upon physical beauty always leads back to attracting the opposite sex, which some girls may stubbornly deny but cannot conceal the truth. Accompanying the super models, the Abercrombie girls and the prom queens are the sweet and handsome boyfriends or admirers of the so-called "beautiful girls." The nice girl secretly swoons over the guys and envies the girls who have stolen their hearts. When she lays in bed at night, the inevitable question pops into her mind, "When will it be my turn?" The typical nice girl has dreamed about Prince Charming since she could speak and talk, yet in reality, she has kissed a lot of frogs.
The nice girl always finds that one special person that she secretly longs for day after day. She may find that special person, perhaps at a social gathering, and automatically have heart palpitations. She memorizes every conversation they've ever had, whether it be in person, the phone, or even on the internet. She memorizes every single time he's ever made her smile, every embrace, every kiss and every look he's ever given her. He is the last person she thinks about before she goes to sleep, and he is the only person that she ever thinks about whenever she's not paying attention in class. She wonders if he would ever feel the same way about her, but she is too timid to let him know how she feels. Her heart is crushed when she realizes that all he ever wanted to be was just friends, or friends with benefits. She continues to remain a fool and continues to long for him, hoping that one day he just may feel the same way about her. The nice girl thinks about their every special encounter and convinces herself that he must feel the same way. But, unfortunately for the nice girl, she just may never know, and due to her shyness, he may never know either.
The nice girl may also find a guy one day who she immediately falls for and begins to date. She tells herself night after night that she will end up marrying this special guy, and she convinces herself that he is the one. However, the same guy who stole her heart away will eventually break her heart and tells her that he just wants to be friends. The same guy who tells the girl he just wants to be friends never seems to comprehend the pain and loss that she feels, or he never cries the millions of tears that she has ever cried. She tries so hard to make him understand how she feels, and she holds onto the thread of hope that he may come back to her. Instead he loses patience with her and lashes out at her and refers to her as the "psycho ex" or the "pathetic ex-girlfriend that he can use over and over." He breaks her heart all over again when he tells her that he has found somebody new to hold onto, someone "worthy" of his love and affection.
These are the girls who try to find a Prince Charming in every male she has ever encountered, and in return has been treated like a common prostitute. These are the girls who know in their hearts that these guys only communicate with them in hopes of submission to their sexual advances. The girls know that these awful guys would never bring them home to meet his parents or friends, and the girls know that when or if he ever does call, it is just a mere booty call. These are the girls who succumb to the sexual advances, because they feel that they cannot do better and are too intimidated to say "no." These are the girls who suffer, because as hard as they try to earn respect or even a second glance, they receive nothing in the end.
These are the true nice girls who take harsh criticism from unsupporting friends and peers, the ones who have to endure the name-calling, the gossip and the betrayal. They are also the same girls who lend an ear and a shoulder to lean on when the unworthy friends are placed in similar situations or in need of emotional support. These are the girls who keep every secret, congratulate every friend who's ever found happiness, provide the best hugs and kisses and provide the most genuine comfort. These are also the girls who listen to every heartbreaking, funny or repetitive tale from her friends and listen to every rant or complaint, no matter how petty the situation may be. These are the girls who, despite their shyness, will easily stand up for their other friends against others who have wronged them and they are the ones who will support the ones they care for through thick and thin. They are the girls who are too upset or scared to stand up to those who belittle her or taunt her or affect her in any negative sort of way. They suffer night after night with people who aren't worthy enough to be her friends or acquaintances, and they cry their hearts out when they hear that the so-called best friend talked behind their backs. They are the girls who ask themselves if they have ever done such a terrible deed to deserve the mistreatment they receive.
These are the girls who feel that they should have the right to dress in stylish, a little scandalous or flirty style without being bombarded by girls with snide comments or perverted men who believe that she is easy access for a one night stand. These are the girls who make the hardest attempt to feel comfortable and beautiful in their own skin and show their outer femininity. Instead, when she walks down the street, she receives disrespect, cat-calls, eye-rolling and jeers from bystanders. These are the girls who you may call "whores and bitches", but they are the shy, nice girls who only desperately yearn for acceptance or confidence. They are the nice girls who blush when someone tells them of their beauty, but frown when they are the males who feed them lines in order to satisfy their groins.
These are the girls who have to deal with the bitching "nice" guys who claim they could never find the right girl when she has been standing there all along. They are the ones who see their girlfriends or other girls treat their significant others as if they were nothing but animals or keep their significant others on a metaphoric ball and chain. They are the ones who tell themselves that if they ever had the chance to have a special significant other, they would treat their significant others as an equal and love and adore them.
The nice girl ultimately suffers the most pain and she is often overlooked when she is at a social gathering or when she stands by the supermodels and beauty queens. She is the one who doesn't get drunk or high at parties, and if she does, she only does it as an attempt to blend in the crowd. She is the one who will take care of you when you are ill, and she is the one who will say a joke to make you feel better when you're in a bad mood. She is the one who is the most misunderstood amongst all girls and she never has a say in any decision made. The nice girl is non-confrontational and despite her disgruntled image or the frown upon her "flawed" face or the various mistakes she has made in her lifetime, she is truly an angel and she holds a heart large enough to harbor the entire universe. She is the one who secretly cries over every Disney movie, every chick flick, everytime someone close to her is in pain and she is the most sentimental person one may ever encounter.
Do not misjudge or possess the misconception of the true nice girl. She just may be your sister, your cousin, your neighbor, your best friend, or even your mother. She may be the girl who's picked on at school, or she might be the misperceived Abercrombie girl or the super model. She could be your enemy, the one who you probably wronged, the one you misjudged or the one you hate through a simple miscommunication.
She just may be me.
An insight to the true nice girl.
The stereotypically perceived "nice girl" is the one who remains a virgin till marriage, views the world in an optimistic light, is known as everybody's sweetheart, never skips a day of Sunday School or Grammar School, and believes that modesty is the key. However, numerous others, such as myself, contend with the stereotype. Men often pine over the theory that all girls want the bad boys and that they wish they could just find a beautiful nice girl to settle down with, yet nobody special has crossed their way. What is the true definition of a "nice girl"? What are the qualifications and factors that separate the good from the bad or the nice and the mean? Perhaps, the aforementioned stereotypes include factors that create the nice girl but most likely not limited to those factors.
The nice girl does not see herself as anything but imperfect. When she first wakes up in the morning and shuffles her feet to the mirror, she notices every blemish, every flaw and does not realize that the imperfections are a natural part of being human. When she watches television or attends school, she timidly falls into the shadow of beautiful super models or Abercrombie girls or the prom queen.She fails to see her true beauty, despite the support given to her from her friends. Friends may tell her, "you just need a boost of confidence" or "you are so beautiful I wish I could be like you." As altruistic as the gestures and kind words may seem, the nice girl continues to fail to see the beauty queen or the super model within her because she has become her biggest critic.She attempts to give herself a confidence boost and walks proudly into the public feeling extremely good about herself, but when she takes a look at her surroundings, she automatically reverts to the girl with no self-confidence or esteem. The words that most likely come to mind at least several times a week are "nobody understands me." Unfortunately, the motive behind the fixation upon physical beauty always leads back to attracting the opposite sex, which some girls may stubbornly deny but cannot conceal the truth. Accompanying the super models, the Abercrombie girls and the prom queens are the sweet and handsome boyfriends or admirers of the so-called "beautiful girls." The nice girl secretly swoons over the guys and envies the girls who have stolen their hearts. When she lays in bed at night, the inevitable question pops into her mind, "When will it be my turn?" The typical nice girl has dreamed about Prince Charming since she could speak and talk, yet in reality, she has kissed a lot of frogs.
The nice girl always finds that one special person that she secretly longs for day after day. She may find that special person, perhaps at a social gathering, and automatically have heart palpitations. She memorizes every conversation they've ever had, whether it be in person, the phone, or even on the internet. She memorizes every single time he's ever made her smile, every embrace, every kiss and every look he's ever given her. He is the last person she thinks about before she goes to sleep, and he is the only person that she ever thinks about whenever she's not paying attention in class. She wonders if he would ever feel the same way about her, but she is too timid to let him know how she feels. Her heart is crushed when she realizes that all he ever wanted to be was just friends, or friends with benefits. She continues to remain a fool and continues to long for him, hoping that one day he just may feel the same way about her. The nice girl thinks about their every special encounter and convinces herself that he must feel the same way. But, unfortunately for the nice girl, she just may never know, and due to her shyness, he may never know either.
The nice girl may also find a guy one day who she immediately falls for and begins to date. She tells herself night after night that she will end up marrying this special guy, and she convinces herself that he is the one. However, the same guy who stole her heart away will eventually break her heart and tells her that he just wants to be friends. The same guy who tells the girl he just wants to be friends never seems to comprehend the pain and loss that she feels, or he never cries the millions of tears that she has ever cried. She tries so hard to make him understand how she feels, and she holds onto the thread of hope that he may come back to her. Instead he loses patience with her and lashes out at her and refers to her as the "psycho ex" or the "pathetic ex-girlfriend that he can use over and over." He breaks her heart all over again when he tells her that he has found somebody new to hold onto, someone "worthy" of his love and affection.
These are the girls who try to find a Prince Charming in every male she has ever encountered, and in return has been treated like a common prostitute. These are the girls who know in their hearts that these guys only communicate with them in hopes of submission to their sexual advances. The girls know that these awful guys would never bring them home to meet his parents or friends, and the girls know that when or if he ever does call, it is just a mere booty call. These are the girls who succumb to the sexual advances, because they feel that they cannot do better and are too intimidated to say "no." These are the girls who suffer, because as hard as they try to earn respect or even a second glance, they receive nothing in the end.
These are the true nice girls who take harsh criticism from unsupporting friends and peers, the ones who have to endure the name-calling, the gossip and the betrayal. They are also the same girls who lend an ear and a shoulder to lean on when the unworthy friends are placed in similar situations or in need of emotional support. These are the girls who keep every secret, congratulate every friend who's ever found happiness, provide the best hugs and kisses and provide the most genuine comfort. These are also the girls who listen to every heartbreaking, funny or repetitive tale from her friends and listen to every rant or complaint, no matter how petty the situation may be. These are the girls who, despite their shyness, will easily stand up for their other friends against others who have wronged them and they are the ones who will support the ones they care for through thick and thin. They are the girls who are too upset or scared to stand up to those who belittle her or taunt her or affect her in any negative sort of way. They suffer night after night with people who aren't worthy enough to be her friends or acquaintances, and they cry their hearts out when they hear that the so-called best friend talked behind their backs. They are the girls who ask themselves if they have ever done such a terrible deed to deserve the mistreatment they receive.
These are the girls who feel that they should have the right to dress in stylish, a little scandalous or flirty style without being bombarded by girls with snide comments or perverted men who believe that she is easy access for a one night stand. These are the girls who make the hardest attempt to feel comfortable and beautiful in their own skin and show their outer femininity. Instead, when she walks down the street, she receives disrespect, cat-calls, eye-rolling and jeers from bystanders. These are the girls who you may call "whores and bitches", but they are the shy, nice girls who only desperately yearn for acceptance or confidence. They are the nice girls who blush when someone tells them of their beauty, but frown when they are the males who feed them lines in order to satisfy their groins.
These are the girls who have to deal with the bitching "nice" guys who claim they could never find the right girl when she has been standing there all along. They are the ones who see their girlfriends or other girls treat their significant others as if they were nothing but animals or keep their significant others on a metaphoric ball and chain. They are the ones who tell themselves that if they ever had the chance to have a special significant other, they would treat their significant others as an equal and love and adore them.
The nice girl ultimately suffers the most pain and she is often overlooked when she is at a social gathering or when she stands by the supermodels and beauty queens. She is the one who doesn't get drunk or high at parties, and if she does, she only does it as an attempt to blend in the crowd. She is the one who will take care of you when you are ill, and she is the one who will say a joke to make you feel better when you're in a bad mood. She is the one who is the most misunderstood amongst all girls and she never has a say in any decision made. The nice girl is non-confrontational and despite her disgruntled image or the frown upon her "flawed" face or the various mistakes she has made in her lifetime, she is truly an angel and she holds a heart large enough to harbor the entire universe. She is the one who secretly cries over every Disney movie, every chick flick, everytime someone close to her is in pain and she is the most sentimental person one may ever encounter.
Do not misjudge or possess the misconception of the true nice girl. She just may be your sister, your cousin, your neighbor, your best friend, or even your mother. She may be the girl who's picked on at school, or she might be the misperceived Abercrombie girl or the super model. She could be your enemy, the one who you probably wronged, the one you misjudged or the one you hate through a simple miscommunication.
She just may be me.