young love never seems to last

[queen_of_mooses]

Alright, so me and the bf may not last the week. I've just found some aspects of him that I don't like, and the parts of him that I do like just aren't enough to make up for it. I just have no idea how to say it to him. Doing it over the phone seems cold, but I don't see him often enough that doing it personally wouldn't be a huge hassle. I don't

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[sherridea]

If it's less than an hour away, then it's not "too much of a hassle". Doing it over the phone is immature and shitty.

[queen_of_mooses]

Please refrain from being judgemental. Thank you.

[sherridea]

No, I'm not being judgmental. I'm telling you my opinion on a specific action.

Would you like to be dumped over the phone?

[queen_of_mooses]

I'd prefer it over being dragged out when I have work and school all the time just to be dumped by a less-than-three-month relationship.

[sherridea]

Then you have the option of calling him and saying "I have something important to talk to you about. Would you like to do it over the phone or in person?"

Not only will he know what you're talking about anyway, but then he can make the decision of how he would like to be dumped.

None of your relationships will last more than 3 months if you don't have a dialogue with them, and don't know what's up with them. Then again, if you're about to go to college and move, then there's no reason to keep going about it anyway.

It's just a matter of being tactful.

[sherridea]

Also, please don't be so defensive. I am taking the time out of studying for finals to help you with advice you asked for.

[queen_of_mooses]

I did not ask you to procrastinate. Regardless, thank you for your advice. Asking him whether he would like the conversation over the phone or in person is a good idea. But I'd recommend you try to not come off so brash when trying to help someone. Good luck on your finals, though.

[sherridea]

You're welcome.

Sorry, I thought you remembered what I'm like. I tend to not sugar-coat things. Thanks, I think my finals will be easy enough.

[queen_of_mooses]

I took your advice and did it and it worked, and it was relatively painless for both of us I think, so thank you. However, please just learn the difference between not sugar-coating your words and purposely being aggressive and sharp. Being honest is not the same as being mean. And I do remember, very fondly, what you're like. You just need to understand that. I truly am glad your finals should be easy. I understand that college students tend to stress out about them pretty bad. What are you majoring in again?

[sherridea]

That's good, I'm glad things worked out okay for you two.

I've just learned that people don't listen until you make a very clear point, first.

I know, most students do, but I think that's because they forget to study until the week before the BIG tests. I just study all the time and clarify at the end of the semester. Also, I don't have any exams that are like 40% of my final grade, so that makes a big difference, too. I'm a psychology major (emphasis on research, not therapy or counseling) with a business administration minor.

[queen_of_mooses]

Oh, cool. Those seem like really good study habits. I'd like to say I'll do that once I get into college, but I'm the world's worst procrastinator, so that probably won't happen. Also, very cool major! Psychology research must be really interesting.