I have loved Victorian things ever since I can remember. When I was a small child I remember watching The Price is Right and desperately wanting the kids Victorian furniture they would give away. At one point I had told my grandfather I wanted a playhouse He asked me what I would like a playhouse to look like. So I drew a picture of a Victorian house with a white picket fence. That was my dream house as a kid. I had the littles dollhouse and loved it
The first dress I designed was in 7th grade.
If you look back through some of my pictures You'll find a remake of my design from 7th grade that was made in 2002, a Victorian evening gown from around 2003, a green metallic taffeta outfit from 2005, a neo Victorian Wonder Woman from 2008, my black and purple steampunk outfit also from 2008 which later became steampunk Morgan Le Fey, from 2009 there was the airship pirate dawn outfit and for Megacon I'm debuting my Steampunk Baroness outfit. I used to identify as goth but that was something I fell into because I like a lot of the music and there was a time when Victorian styles were common. The last few times I've gone to the Castle, which is once every few years, I now stand out like a sore thumb. The style I like doesn't really seem to exist in that scene anymore. When steampunk started growing there again was a way to indulge my love of Victorian things. My favorite period is 1880's Victorian and with a few simple twists the clothing could be made steampunk.
Unfortunately, one of the things I remember about the goth communities was how drama laden and nasty they could be it was a huge turn off for me. Although since I'm not a terribly social person I simply stayed on the periphery of the community, posted pictures & ignored the foolishness as much as possible.
Now I'm noticing the same behavior in the steampunk community. The same nastiness, arrogance & drama from when the goth communities were big. My guess is a lot of people have migrated over unfortunately so did the crap that made me want very little to do with the goth community as a whole. I find that the behavior that I thought was childish and beneath me in my mid to late twenties I have even less tolerance for in my mid thirties. I also can't help but think of how these sub cultures grow & then either die out or come very close to dieing out. This type of behavior contributes to that. After all someone who is just getting interested in a sub culture seeing this type of nastiness is going to tend to shy away. The more people get a negative impression and get turned off, the more of a bad reputation a group gets the faster that group falls from favor. Bad impressions spread far more quickly than good ones. If you are treated well by a group of people you may casually mention it. However if you are treated poorly by a group of people you are far more likely to tell everyone you know to stay clear.
I will continue to dress & do as I wish just as I always have done however, soon I may have to look at the steampunk community as I did the goth community which is a shame.