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[quasigeek]

Dominant vs. submissive, ie, where do I fall on the spectrum?
(Why am I thinking of all this stuff recently, honestly [I blame fandom]).

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[cirobi]

That definitely could be a possibility, the intimidation thing. Most people with dominant personalities can and do come off as a little intimidating without realizing it... or is that just our innate smidge of submissive nature that causes that intimidation?

I think though, that in general, people who seem VERY confident in themselves and their abilities plays off of other people's sense of doubt in themselves. I know that's true for myself with my flute playing abilities. I know I have decent skills playing the flute, but even so, I still feel very intimidated by the skill level of most of my own flute choir. Obviously, I wouldn't have been allowed to join the group if I didn't have a good enough skill level, but still... their abilities and confidence totally play off my own insecurities.

Perhaps... that's just what makes me stronger as an individual, being able to recognize that fact of myself and be able to push forth to make a negative into a positive? Made that into a question on purpose because I'm really not sure. I've asked myself similar questions frequently over time.

I agree on hating thinking of submissive qualities in myself as a weakness. That's not necessarily the truth, especially when your nature is to turn those perceived weaknesses into strengths by recognizing them. Hopefully that makes sense.

Oh and yea, the self-doubt questions at work... I keep questioning my decision to go back to my original office even though I know it's a better place for me to grow professionally at this point. I hate self-doubt. I get so angry at myself when I let thoughts of self-doubt creep in. Grrrr. Oh well... just more proof I'm not the robot I sometimes wish I were. LOL