South Africa :) My thesis will be about the relationship between the South African society and diamonds (De Beers). I'm collecting books about South Africa, I perceive it as a paradigm I want to understand - as much as I can. I'm thinking of studying in S.A. (master), because I need to improve my English and I don't like neither the U.K. nor the U.S.
What to say? I agree. I totally agree with you. I agreed to what you've written now in the past and I do it now. I can't bear ties - not the ones that affect my mind - but now I feel so "stranger" that this belief of mine serves as a mere walking stick, not as an inspiration. I know this situation is something I somehow wished. Like it's the only path I could choose. But, still, it's not easy to feel this way. My faculty is called "Cultural-Linguistic Mediation", therefore all this blabbering about cultures is important to me. It's my daily bread. And I do think people don't need a culture, not as long as "culture" means "something that you share with other people who happen to be born in the same place where you live". In this multicultural society that likes to be called "multicultural" I think "culture" is a disquieting word, like "religion" in the past in some areas of the world. I'm constantly being told that my mother-language is important because it's the only way to preserve my culture. I do think my mother-language is important because it lets me think and so deconstruct "cultural" fairy tales. But, still, this feeling is discomforting, to feel that there is no place where I can come back to.
As for English and German, I feel the urge to improve them, because every time I use them it's like I were borrowing them.
Unfortunately I never learnt Afrikaans, since it was thought in junior school while before white children spoke principally English. They tell me I once understood it, but the trauma of learning in a few months a new language erased all traces of it from my mind. I could have lost also English but luckily my mother is a though headed English woman, that in 22 years of living in Italy never uses Italian if not when strictly necessary. Now that she is gone in pension down south I have problems exercising English, I can read it and watch it but have nobody to speak to with it. I am sorry for how you feel : - but now I feel so "stranger" that this belief of mine serves as a mere walking stick, not as an inspiration - but I am sure you will overcome this feeling with time.. the alternative is to chose to be a good Italian girl, get married, have some children and do as your husband tells you.. your choice ;) For me it was relatively easy because I hate what the intolerances that the said “cultural differences” provoke, I am convinced that in good and evil we are all the same, so what’s the point?? I love culture differences for the lovely things it offers (in tradition, music, foods, architecture etc. etc.) and I pity those people that are so close-minded that they do not want to experiment (this does NOT mean I am going to eat chocolate-covered grasshoppers.. there is a limit).
Well, I’m sorry, I was sure I had answered your entry, and I didn’t, and I can’t find what I was sure I had written.
[the alternative is to chose to be a good Italian girl, get married, have some children and do as your husband tells you.. your choice ;) ] No way. Not in Italy, not in any place in the world. I’m bisexual and polyamorous - it’d be hard to get married with just one man (no other solution in Italy).
[For me it was relatively easy because I hate what the intolerances that the said “cultural differences” provoke, I am convinced that in good and evil we are all the same, so what’s the point?? ] I like you. But I think that culture can make some differences... There’re many ways to be good and to be bad. But I don’t think that a culture could be worse than another one or vice versa. I do like people who are able to analyze their own culture, because I think it’s the only way not to make stupid mistakes, or, to say it better, to make mistakes (everyone does) but to be able to feel responsible - and therefore to solve the consequences.
[(this does NOT mean I am going to eat chocolate-covered grasshoppers..)] I would :D
Thanks anyway for your response, I cherish the possibility to exercise the language and you are an interesting person to interact with. Now… ok for bisexual, but I’m not certain what you mean for “polyamorouse”… (I even tried to put it on internet, so I’m quite sure it’s part of your personal terminology:), could you define? Once when I was younger and all self-righteous, to your statement I would have thought “Holy heavens!! Pour lost soul! I must try to convince her to change her evil ways!!” Now, after discovering all the skeletons of my English family (like my cousin Patricia marrying her girlfriend) I definitely have a more pragmatic way of judging what people do in their sex life (meaning I try not to judge, until it’s consensual for me it’s their business). I love Englishmen, because they seem all good and proper, but if you have a look in their families histories you find episodes that would embarrass a transsexual biker, but old respectable ladies will speak of them over tea, with no more sentiment than when they speak of curtains and receipts. [I like you.] Ho dear! This means I must have given a wrong impression of myself.. [But I think that culture can make some differences...] In this I agree with you, I think it creates an “attitude” towards life and people, ex: easy going Brazilians, precise German, stacanovistic Japanese etc. (I now they are generalisations, but it gives the idea), and that this attitude often generates confrontation and dislike for their incompatibility… then sometime it helps friendship.. [to be able to feel responsible - and therefore to solve the consequences.] You got it!! Not always easy mind you :( some times “knowledge is not power”
[(this does NOT mean I am going to eat chocolate-covered grasshoppers..)] [I would :D] I am sure they (or something similar) can be bought on internet. Look out that I could decide to order them and send them over for your snack...
Yes, I'm late. I suffer from this strange disease: I happen to have no free time.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory Because I'm not polygamist. It's different. And it's nothing to do with skeletons, because I've got no secrets, and I don't keep being what I am while thinking this practice is somehow a "sin". I do think this practice is the right one. Therefore, he who's monogamist is the devil, not me. :D I mean that I mean what I do. I'm being serious, it's not something like "Sooner or later I'll be married, but not now".
Ok, I admit I had not done a through research, so I must have missed the definition^_^’ quite interesting philosophy by the way, also I don’t think It would be my peace of cake. I have problems enduring one person at a time for long periods, trying to extricate myself in more than one relationship, with all the social, personal, sentimental problems involved, would make me send everybody to hell after a week. But then that’s because I fundamentally don’t give a damn about most things other people think are important (and ruin their liver on). In any case, maybe I didn’t express myself well in my precedent post, about skeletons, hiding and sin I mean. I just wanted to explain how I passed from one state of mind to another. I see you are convinced in what you do/ believe (I read swiftly your Italian Journal) and I respect your ideas about relationship , also if I believe they are hard to apply in our society (meaning: you believe in them but those with who you stay do they “really” believe in them?) In any case, it’s good to know that I’m the devil!! Finally I understand why I find this enormous fork everywhere I go, and the priest gesticulates and murmurs in Latin in my direction each Sunday mass:) As for your time disease, I fear it is the most dangerous disease of our generation, and nobody’s safe from it ;)
It's me, Qoelet. I'm sorry but I forgot my password and now I can't search for it. And I'm sorry because every time it takes me ages to reply, but, well... I'm like always busy. >_> And tell me if you're on Facebook, I'll send you a message with my name.
[also if I believe they are hard to apply in our society] For sure. And I would find stupid he who would apply these rules in our society in, let's say, one year. This society is based upon other customs, and everything needs time to change. Therefore mine is a sort of suicidal philosophy.
[(meaning: you believe in them but those with who you stay do they “really” believe in them?) ] I can't know this. But, well, we can hardly now whether they really believe in monogamy.
Don’t worry for the response timing, as I said before, after reading your Italian journal, I can see you have a busy life. As for your name, technically I already know it. Since you prefer, I’ll contact you on facebook and explain better.
My thesis will be about the relationship between the South African society and diamonds (De Beers). I'm collecting books about South Africa, I perceive it as a paradigm I want to understand - as much as I can.
I'm thinking of studying in S.A. (master), because I need to improve my English and I don't like neither the U.K. nor the U.S.
What to say?
I agree.
I totally agree with you.
I agreed to what you've written now in the past and I do it now. I can't bear ties - not the ones that affect my mind - but now I feel so "stranger" that this belief of mine serves as a mere walking stick, not as an inspiration.
I know this situation is something I somehow wished. Like it's the only path I could choose. But, still, it's not easy to feel this way.
My faculty is called "Cultural-Linguistic Mediation", therefore all this blabbering about cultures is important to me. It's my daily bread. And I do think people don't need a culture, not as long as "culture" means "something that you share with other people who happen to be born in the same place where you live". In this multicultural society that likes to be called "multicultural" I think "culture" is a disquieting word, like "religion" in the past in some areas of the world.
I'm constantly being told that my mother-language is important because it's the only way to preserve my culture. I do think my mother-language is important because it lets me think and so deconstruct "cultural" fairy tales.
But, still, this feeling is discomforting, to feel that there is no place where I can come back to.
As for English and German, I feel the urge to improve them, because every time I use them it's like I were borrowing them.
Thank you for everything :)
Praat jy Afrikaans?
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They tell me I once understood it, but the trauma of learning in a few months a new language erased all traces of it from my mind.
I could have lost also English but luckily my mother is a though headed English woman, that in 22 years of living in Italy never uses Italian if not when strictly necessary.
Now that she is gone in pension down south I have problems exercising English, I can read it and watch it but have nobody to speak to with it.
I am sorry for how you feel : - but now I feel so "stranger" that this belief of mine serves as a mere walking stick, not as an inspiration - but I am sure you will overcome this feeling with time.. the alternative is to chose to be a good Italian girl, get married, have some children and do as your husband tells you.. your choice ;)
For me it was relatively easy because I hate what the intolerances that the said “cultural differences” provoke, I am convinced that in good and evil we are all the same, so what’s the point??
I love culture differences for the lovely things it offers (in tradition, music, foods, architecture etc. etc.) and I pity those people that are so close-minded that they do not want to experiment (this does NOT mean I am going to eat chocolate-covered grasshoppers.. there is a limit).
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[the alternative is to chose to be a good Italian girl, get married, have some children and do as your husband tells you.. your choice ;) ]
No way. Not in Italy, not in any place in the world.
I’m bisexual and polyamorous - it’d be hard to get married with just one man (no other solution in Italy).
[For me it was relatively easy because I hate what the intolerances that the said “cultural differences” provoke, I am convinced that in good and evil we are all the same, so what’s the point?? ]
I like you.
But I think that culture can make some differences... There’re many ways to be good and to be bad. But I don’t think that a culture could be worse than another one or vice versa. I do like people who are able to analyze their own culture, because I think it’s the only way not to make stupid mistakes, or, to say it better, to make mistakes (everyone does) but to be able to feel responsible - and therefore to solve the consequences.
[(this does NOT mean I am going to eat chocolate-covered grasshoppers..)]
I would :D
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Now… ok for bisexual, but I’m not certain what you mean for “polyamorouse”… (I even tried to put it on internet, so I’m quite sure it’s part of your personal terminology:), could you define?
Once when I was younger and all self-righteous, to your statement I would have thought “Holy heavens!! Pour lost soul! I must try to convince her to change her evil ways!!”
Now, after discovering all the skeletons of my English family (like my cousin Patricia marrying her girlfriend) I definitely have a more pragmatic way of judging what people do in their sex life (meaning I try not to judge, until it’s consensual for me it’s their business).
I love Englishmen, because they seem all good and proper, but if you have a look in their families histories you find episodes that would embarrass a transsexual biker, but old respectable ladies will speak of them over tea, with no more sentiment than when they speak of curtains and receipts.
[I like you.] Ho dear! This means I must have given a wrong impression of myself..
[But I think that culture can make some differences...]
In this I agree with you, I think it creates an “attitude” towards life and people, ex: easy going Brazilians, precise German, stacanovistic Japanese etc. (I now they are generalisations, but it gives the idea), and that this attitude often generates confrontation and dislike for their incompatibility… then sometime it helps friendship..
[to be able to feel responsible - and therefore to solve the consequences.] You got it!! Not always easy mind you :( some times “knowledge is not power”
[(this does NOT mean I am going to eat chocolate-covered grasshoppers..)]
[I would :D] I am sure they (or something similar) can be bought on internet. Look out that I could decide to order them and send them over for your snack...
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory
Because I'm not polygamist. It's different. And it's nothing to do with skeletons, because I've got no secrets, and I don't keep being what I am while thinking this practice is somehow a "sin". I do think this practice is the right one. Therefore, he who's monogamist is the devil, not me. :D
I mean that I mean what I do. I'm being serious, it's not something like "Sooner or later I'll be married, but not now".
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I have problems enduring one person at a time for long periods, trying to extricate myself in more than one relationship, with all the social, personal, sentimental problems involved, would make me send everybody to hell after a week.
But then that’s because I fundamentally don’t give a damn about most things other people think are important (and ruin their liver on).
In any case, maybe I didn’t express myself well in my precedent post, about skeletons, hiding and sin I mean.
I just wanted to explain how I passed from one state of mind to another.
I see you are convinced in what you do/ believe (I read swiftly your Italian Journal) and I respect your ideas about relationship , also if I believe they are hard to apply in our society (meaning: you believe in them but those with who you stay do they “really” believe in them?)
In any case, it’s good to know that I’m the devil!! Finally I understand why I find this enormous fork everywhere I go, and the priest gesticulates and murmurs in Latin in my direction each Sunday mass:)
As for your time disease, I fear it is the most dangerous disease of our generation, and nobody’s safe from it ;)
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I'm sorry but I forgot my password and now I can't search for it. And I'm sorry because every time it takes me ages to reply, but, well... I'm like always busy. >_> And tell me if you're on Facebook, I'll send you a message with my name.
[also if I believe they are hard to apply in our society]
For sure.
And I would find stupid he who would apply these rules in our society in, let's say, one year. This society is based upon other customs, and everything needs time to change.
Therefore mine is a sort of suicidal philosophy.
[(meaning: you believe in them but those with who you stay do they “really” believe in them?) ]
I can't know this. But, well, we can hardly now whether they really believe in monogamy.
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As for your name, technically I already know it.
Since you prefer, I’ll contact you on facebook and explain better.
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