Stange Ponderments
Moments of Estrangement
So, there are times when you are with a group of your friends, and you suddenly feel really separate, and like they are all strangers. And you are like: "Why am I here? I don't even I know these people. Why am I out with a large group of people I don't even know? How did I get here?" And then you just want to go home. I don't really like those moments, but in a way they are kind of reality checks. Or something, maybe. I hope.
Looking Back
So, simmilar to above, you can have moments where you vividly remmember something (pleasant) that happened in the past. But then of course, you become sad that it isn't that way now. But you may be in a perfectly valid and happy sitaition. So then you think to yourself, "Why can't I enjoy what I have right now? Why do I have to compare it to what came before?" Because you know in retrosepct you will look back on it in the same nostalgic way....
Things, and Blame and Starting
So, if it is something bad, a problem, assigning blame does no one any good. Remember, whether or not you were part of the problem, you can be part of the solution.
Also, as I mentioned before, I really strongly associate things that were components of the events with the event themselves. "It has nothing to do with the drink (mocha!! Chai!!), but the drink has everything to do with it."
Yet, if it is something good, it's fun to dish out "blame", or perhaps responsibility. Like, we chalk up our successes to skill, but our failures to luck. And vice-versa with our enemies... Their successes are luck.
So, there are times when you are with a group of your friends, and you suddenly feel really separate, and like they are all strangers. And you are like: "Why am I here? I don't even I know these people. Why am I out with a large group of people I don't even know? How did I get here?" And then you just want to go home. I don't really like those moments, but in a way they are kind of reality checks. Or something, maybe. I hope.
Looking Back
So, simmilar to above, you can have moments where you vividly remmember something (pleasant) that happened in the past. But then of course, you become sad that it isn't that way now. But you may be in a perfectly valid and happy sitaition. So then you think to yourself, "Why can't I enjoy what I have right now? Why do I have to compare it to what came before?" Because you know in retrosepct you will look back on it in the same nostalgic way....
Things, and Blame and Starting
So, if it is something bad, a problem, assigning blame does no one any good. Remember, whether or not you were part of the problem, you can be part of the solution.
Also, as I mentioned before, I really strongly associate things that were components of the events with the event themselves. "It has nothing to do with the drink (mocha!! Chai!!), but the drink has everything to do with it."
Yet, if it is something good, it's fun to dish out "blame", or perhaps responsibility. Like, we chalk up our successes to skill, but our failures to luck. And vice-versa with our enemies... Their successes are luck.