So I need someone's opinion.
Okay, so for Halloween me and the bf went to parties on the friday and the saturday before, and my bf really wanted me to wear something skimpy so I did, and surprise surprise, I got hit on a couple times (because boys are typical.) But saturday night, me and the bf and my friend taylor went to her friend's halloween party in puyallup or south hill or whatever, and one guy really started talking to me, and I was super drunk and I don't hang out with barely anyone but my boyfriend so having a conversation with someone I don't really know is interesting. But the guy got a little touchy, and started like rubbing my arm and trying to hold my hand, and we were flirting a bit. Apparently this pissed the bf off (brett is his name by the way) and I admit that I would probably be pretty pissed off too. But so the next week we go on a break because he thinks that because I got drunk at some party and some guy was touching my hands and arms and I let him, that means that this guy definitely wants to have sex with me, and if Brett wasn't there then I would have let it happen, which isn't true whatsoever. It didn't even get close to kissing, it was just flirtaciousness. Anyway, so we went on the break for like a total of 4 or 5 days, and me and brett hungout the whole time basically, which really confused me because I thought we needed some space from each other to get out heads cleared and he kept saying in txts stuff like "well, IF we get back together..." like it was a definite option that we'd break up even though we were hanging out the whole time and being lovey dovey as normal.
Well, so this friday, like november 30/dec 1, Brett tells me that during our break he had phone sex with some girl. And the thing is, he and this girl went on a date back in January back when me and Brett were starting to really really like each other but before we got together, and he always makes big deals out of the guys I hungout with back then. Plus also, he never really told me about the date with her, it kind of slipped out and then he pretended like he had told me before and I just forgot, which he never did. So I make a big deal out of the fact that he has phone sex with some girl that he's gone on a date before and he says it doesn't count because we were on a break (which didn't really feel like a break to me, but wahtever). But he told me that he was talking to this girl about how much he loved me and then somehow they had phone sex. I just want to know if it's justifiable for me to be angry that he did that with this girl? It's just so hypocritical to me, because if I even txt boys that I have maybe some history with, he gets super pissed. It just makes me mad because somehow the rules only apply to me because I'm a girl and he's a boy or whatever, and he always tries to come up with technicalities or excuses. Like, he said that he was trying to hook the phone sex girl up with his friend so they all hungout one night and they all got really drunk and brett and the girl slept on the couches at his friends apartment, and now I am supposed to believe that nothing happened? This happened almost a week ago, and it still hurts and I am still suspicious and jealous and ugh. And whenever I keep bringing it up we get into a huge fight and nothing gets resolved. I don't know. I am just sad.
Well, so this friday, like november 30/dec 1, Brett tells me that during our break he had phone sex with some girl. And the thing is, he and this girl went on a date back in January back when me and Brett were starting to really really like each other but before we got together, and he always makes big deals out of the guys I hungout with back then. Plus also, he never really told me about the date with her, it kind of slipped out and then he pretended like he had told me before and I just forgot, which he never did. So I make a big deal out of the fact that he has phone sex with some girl that he's gone on a date before and he says it doesn't count because we were on a break (which didn't really feel like a break to me, but wahtever). But he told me that he was talking to this girl about how much he loved me and then somehow they had phone sex. I just want to know if it's justifiable for me to be angry that he did that with this girl? It's just so hypocritical to me, because if I even txt boys that I have maybe some history with, he gets super pissed. It just makes me mad because somehow the rules only apply to me because I'm a girl and he's a boy or whatever, and he always tries to come up with technicalities or excuses. Like, he said that he was trying to hook the phone sex girl up with his friend so they all hungout one night and they all got really drunk and brett and the girl slept on the couches at his friends apartment, and now I am supposed to believe that nothing happened? This happened almost a week ago, and it still hurts and I am still suspicious and jealous and ugh. And whenever I keep bringing it up we get into a huge fight and nothing gets resolved. I don't know. I am just sad.