A Rant about Faggots....
So an update, not really a positive one, i seem to use this just to be annoyed lately...
A number of questions have come up in the past week or two regarding my sexuality. As anyone who knows me will know, i'm not the camp-ist of creatures, yet i dont have a problem with being gay, and as far as i'm aware the majority don't have a problem with me. It is fair to say that mates can crack gay jokes as much as they please and i'll join in because as you all know, i'm not a believer in having to be a 'faggot' to be gay. I'm also not offended when i hear of small minded folk protesting against gay marriage or telling others that its not normal because at the end of the day, they just don't know any better.
Recently however i have been asked severel questions by several different people, all of whom have genuinely thrown me..... Questions like do i have to inform schools of my sexuality if i want to teach?, is it legal for me to be a teacher? Do i think me and my best friend would still be so close if i'd come out before i met him? and an old favorite "why don't you go out with that guy, he's gay too" (Baring in mind that if you think you're one of these people and you think i've twisted your words, i've been asked a LOT of things this week and these are just a couple of examples, all of which are word for word). What makes me want to munt even more, is that i know some people will read those questions and genuinely wonder what the answers are.
I think it best to clarify some things just incase... I like men, i havent always liked men, but just because i dont act like a faggot, it doesnt mean i've only just come to terms with my sexuality so do not introduce me as such. I've been somewhere close to gay since i was 16 and before that i had a girlfriend who i liked very much. She didnt turn me gay, thanks for asking. She is a wonderful human being and although we fought and consequently broke up i enjoyed a lot of the time we spent together, INCLUDING the more intimate moments. I dont give a shit about ladies fashion...so dont ask me to come shopping with you unless you are my close friend and you want to company. No i dont know Andy, or bill or fred or bob. Believe it or not we dont all get given a homo adress book with every gay man listing in the world. I dont like Kylie Minogue and can tolerate the mention of her only in regards to australian music which happens to be an interest of mine. I do like musical theatre because i AM a musician, and because i was afforded the skill to be able to play music and understand it, i think i have every right to enjoy it.
I have a lot of females friends this is true. I get on with them very well, but none of them are my 'hags' and anyone one who IS cool enough to deserve what seems to be such an honourable position amongst women often have too much common sense to believe i require such a thing. (baring in mind that anyone who's known me longer than 5 minutes and is freaking out that they've ever reffered to themselves as such...styf, gem, sarah, vera, airen etc. dont stress i love you all and i'm not directing any of this at youse..) People tend to forget i also have an equal number of homosexual female friends, gay male friends and straight male friends so i feel i have covered all basis adequately.
I can quite honestly say one of the comments that pissed me off the most was the one about my best friend. I feel quite safe knowing that we would still be friends regardless and for the wankers that presume otherwise he has actually made me FAR more queer friendly than i ever would have been on my own. Whist on the subject of my best friend and things that shit me, you can be sure, ABSOLUTELY sure 100 PERCENT SUCCESS RATE type sure, that if i mention my best friend, at any given point the next question is always .....you guessed it..... "is he gay?" we dont always hunt in packs! but i have honestly never met anyone at uni that hasnt asked that question...
Perhaps in many ways i'm being a little unfair. There is a large percentage of gay males who justify a lot of these questions. Which leads me to my next target. GAY MEN.
Just because i'm gay it doesnt mean i'm going to try and sleep with you. If i think you're nice then i'm certainly going to try to talk to you, because there arent many of us and i would at some point like SOME affection. I dont demand to know the size of your penis, or the details of the last 10 men you slept with. You don't have the right to touch me, or to touch any of the women in the room just because you're gay, its still harrassment. If you think i'm a bad gay guy because i dont by clothes every two seconds, refuse to cut my hair, refuse to come to gay clubs every second day and actually enjoy the company of my straight friends, then FINE i'm a bad gay guy, but i'm a happy one, not one thats trying so hard to impress all the other men that they dont actually know who the fuck they are anymore!! I'm a person who happens to like guys, but i am a person. I'm sick of guys who put their sexuality where their personality should be and think that it makes an ample substitute. I want to find someone in the world who'll love me for who i am and what i believe it, that includes my music my career my friends AS WELL as my sexuality.
This rant won't change anything, it'll just make the good people angrier and the crap people stupider. it made me feel better though.
A number of questions have come up in the past week or two regarding my sexuality. As anyone who knows me will know, i'm not the camp-ist of creatures, yet i dont have a problem with being gay, and as far as i'm aware the majority don't have a problem with me. It is fair to say that mates can crack gay jokes as much as they please and i'll join in because as you all know, i'm not a believer in having to be a 'faggot' to be gay. I'm also not offended when i hear of small minded folk protesting against gay marriage or telling others that its not normal because at the end of the day, they just don't know any better.
Recently however i have been asked severel questions by several different people, all of whom have genuinely thrown me..... Questions like do i have to inform schools of my sexuality if i want to teach?, is it legal for me to be a teacher? Do i think me and my best friend would still be so close if i'd come out before i met him? and an old favorite "why don't you go out with that guy, he's gay too" (Baring in mind that if you think you're one of these people and you think i've twisted your words, i've been asked a LOT of things this week and these are just a couple of examples, all of which are word for word). What makes me want to munt even more, is that i know some people will read those questions and genuinely wonder what the answers are.
I think it best to clarify some things just incase... I like men, i havent always liked men, but just because i dont act like a faggot, it doesnt mean i've only just come to terms with my sexuality so do not introduce me as such. I've been somewhere close to gay since i was 16 and before that i had a girlfriend who i liked very much. She didnt turn me gay, thanks for asking. She is a wonderful human being and although we fought and consequently broke up i enjoyed a lot of the time we spent together, INCLUDING the more intimate moments. I dont give a shit about ladies fashion...so dont ask me to come shopping with you unless you are my close friend and you want to company. No i dont know Andy, or bill or fred or bob. Believe it or not we dont all get given a homo adress book with every gay man listing in the world. I dont like Kylie Minogue and can tolerate the mention of her only in regards to australian music which happens to be an interest of mine. I do like musical theatre because i AM a musician, and because i was afforded the skill to be able to play music and understand it, i think i have every right to enjoy it.
I have a lot of females friends this is true. I get on with them very well, but none of them are my 'hags' and anyone one who IS cool enough to deserve what seems to be such an honourable position amongst women often have too much common sense to believe i require such a thing. (baring in mind that anyone who's known me longer than 5 minutes and is freaking out that they've ever reffered to themselves as such...styf, gem, sarah, vera, airen etc. dont stress i love you all and i'm not directing any of this at youse..) People tend to forget i also have an equal number of homosexual female friends, gay male friends and straight male friends so i feel i have covered all basis adequately.
I can quite honestly say one of the comments that pissed me off the most was the one about my best friend. I feel quite safe knowing that we would still be friends regardless and for the wankers that presume otherwise he has actually made me FAR more queer friendly than i ever would have been on my own. Whist on the subject of my best friend and things that shit me, you can be sure, ABSOLUTELY sure 100 PERCENT SUCCESS RATE type sure, that if i mention my best friend, at any given point the next question is always .....you guessed it..... "is he gay?" we dont always hunt in packs! but i have honestly never met anyone at uni that hasnt asked that question...
Perhaps in many ways i'm being a little unfair. There is a large percentage of gay males who justify a lot of these questions. Which leads me to my next target. GAY MEN.
Just because i'm gay it doesnt mean i'm going to try and sleep with you. If i think you're nice then i'm certainly going to try to talk to you, because there arent many of us and i would at some point like SOME affection. I dont demand to know the size of your penis, or the details of the last 10 men you slept with. You don't have the right to touch me, or to touch any of the women in the room just because you're gay, its still harrassment. If you think i'm a bad gay guy because i dont by clothes every two seconds, refuse to cut my hair, refuse to come to gay clubs every second day and actually enjoy the company of my straight friends, then FINE i'm a bad gay guy, but i'm a happy one, not one thats trying so hard to impress all the other men that they dont actually know who the fuck they are anymore!! I'm a person who happens to like guys, but i am a person. I'm sick of guys who put their sexuality where their personality should be and think that it makes an ample substitute. I want to find someone in the world who'll love me for who i am and what i believe it, that includes my music my career my friends AS WELL as my sexuality.
This rant won't change anything, it'll just make the good people angrier and the crap people stupider. it made me feel better though.