Presents, presents, presents
Ok this probably sounds selfish of me, but I'm really tired of having to fork out money for other people's events. I just spent about $50 on that baby shower last weekend, and now I've been invited to a bridal shower for a girl at work next week during our lunch hour. Don't get me wrong, I have no problem celebrating other people's big moments, and I'm flattered to be included, but I really don't like showers that much. Of course you're expected to give a gift, and because there are so many other people giving gifts as well, I feel pressure to come up with something really good so I don't look cheap. I stressed out so much about the baby shower because I didn't want to look like a miser in front of Rob's family, and now I'm contemplating what to get for the bridal shower. I don't even know the girl all that well, so I don't really feel I should have to spend too much.
I only have so much free cash to go around, and I'm still back logged on things I'd actually like to buy for myself. I need dressy fall clothes for work, and I'd like to buy a few CDs and things for the apartment, plus I need to get my hair done in a little over a week. I've put everything on hold, because I'm always buying for other people. I spent a good chunk of money on a birthday gift for my cousin's son about a month ago, and I haven't even received as much as a thank you. She's due to have another baby any day now, and of course I'll be expected to buy something for that too. She's the type of person who holds a grudge if you don't show up to her stupid little events, even if you have a legitimate reason.
I'm the type of person who loves to give, but on my own time and for my own reasons. I love to spoil Rob and pick out gifts for him, or pick out gifts for my family, but I hate being forced to give a gift. I'd rather give gifts to people that are close to me, that I know will be appreciative, rather than someone I hardly know who won't give two shits about it. I found at the baby shower last weekend that she just sort of looked at it quickly, and passed it along without really thanking me for it. After all the time and effort I put into trying to give people things they will want and need, I feel like no one even notices. I'm not asking for people to fall at my feet for me giving a gift, but it would be nice for someone to acknowledge that I'm spending my hard earned money to donate to their life, even though I need money for my own. It would be different if I was very well off, and had tons of money to throw around, but I don't.
One day, when I have an event that warrants having a shower, I wouldn't even expect people to shower me with gifts. Just the fact that people are there to support me would mean enough.
I only have so much free cash to go around, and I'm still back logged on things I'd actually like to buy for myself. I need dressy fall clothes for work, and I'd like to buy a few CDs and things for the apartment, plus I need to get my hair done in a little over a week. I've put everything on hold, because I'm always buying for other people. I spent a good chunk of money on a birthday gift for my cousin's son about a month ago, and I haven't even received as much as a thank you. She's due to have another baby any day now, and of course I'll be expected to buy something for that too. She's the type of person who holds a grudge if you don't show up to her stupid little events, even if you have a legitimate reason.
I'm the type of person who loves to give, but on my own time and for my own reasons. I love to spoil Rob and pick out gifts for him, or pick out gifts for my family, but I hate being forced to give a gift. I'd rather give gifts to people that are close to me, that I know will be appreciative, rather than someone I hardly know who won't give two shits about it. I found at the baby shower last weekend that she just sort of looked at it quickly, and passed it along without really thanking me for it. After all the time and effort I put into trying to give people things they will want and need, I feel like no one even notices. I'm not asking for people to fall at my feet for me giving a gift, but it would be nice for someone to acknowledge that I'm spending my hard earned money to donate to their life, even though I need money for my own. It would be different if I was very well off, and had tons of money to throw around, but I don't.
One day, when I have an event that warrants having a shower, I wouldn't even expect people to shower me with gifts. Just the fact that people are there to support me would mean enough.