Holidays and Seasonal Depression
I'm terribly sorry about my lack of posting. I know I had said in my last post before this that I would start posting daily. Well, that kinda fell to the wayside due to my hospitalization with bronchial pneumonia. I'm feeling much better now and thank you all that sent me well wishes and for your prayers. I greatly appreciate it. On to the matter at hand. I recently spoke to several people that had lost loved ones over the holidays both recent and in the past years. This subject is rather crucial yet the hardest to discuss in open forums and face to face. I lost several loved ones over the holidays and I'll be honest, no holiday seems joyous when those that we love are not there to celebrate with us in body. We are a social animal and when those that we have grown attached to are not there, it affects us in several ways.
One way is we tend to not want to participate out of guilt. We would think along the lines of, "...since so and so is not here and this was their favorite activity, it's just not the same without them." It's this form of sentimentality that often leads us to believe that if we have fun at the same activity or function that those dearly departed had enjoyed, we are smiting them in some way. This should never be true. Those that had left us would never want us to be burdened with guilt. This is the time of year that we should be thankful for the memories they had given us and remember why we are here.
We should carry on and never feel the burden of loss. It is true that family is most important for our internal cultural family structure. There are cases that a family member that has departed was the glue that held the family together. In such cases, another should stand and take the place of the one that once had. There are even those cases where the family cannot be repaired or bonded the same way due to internal friction. This is where reason number two comes in. Those families that were torn apart due to money issues, internal cultural changes and otherwise new background experiences such as educational backgrounds and military knowledge that could cause a break in the internal structure of the family group.
There are times that we tend to take what we have grown accustomed to as the "comfortable life" that was presented to us in a family that we tend to forget that these values were given to us for a reason. Once the wise ones leave us, we are lost to what they were trying to tell us until later on in life after the grieving is done. The the growth begins. There is no why I would talk about a hard issue without giving up the good stuff too. Okay, years after the loved ones depart and the holidays come around again, a change begins to occur.
It's a new strength that offers wisdom, peace and tranquility within the home. Our grandparents faced the same things and passed this knowledge to us when our hamster dies, our kitten or puppy gets sick. These life lessons, we pass on to our own when we reach the point our grandparents did. Some of us reach it sooner than others. These life lessons become a new foundation and the glue for out own familial culture. I honestly do think that what we know know and what we experience now, no matter how hard it is during the time we face the issue, will provide us with the tools necessary to aid the next generation when the time comes for us to discuss these matters in full.
One way is we tend to not want to participate out of guilt. We would think along the lines of, "...since so and so is not here and this was their favorite activity, it's just not the same without them." It's this form of sentimentality that often leads us to believe that if we have fun at the same activity or function that those dearly departed had enjoyed, we are smiting them in some way. This should never be true. Those that had left us would never want us to be burdened with guilt. This is the time of year that we should be thankful for the memories they had given us and remember why we are here.
We should carry on and never feel the burden of loss. It is true that family is most important for our internal cultural family structure. There are cases that a family member that has departed was the glue that held the family together. In such cases, another should stand and take the place of the one that once had. There are even those cases where the family cannot be repaired or bonded the same way due to internal friction. This is where reason number two comes in. Those families that were torn apart due to money issues, internal cultural changes and otherwise new background experiences such as educational backgrounds and military knowledge that could cause a break in the internal structure of the family group.
There are times that we tend to take what we have grown accustomed to as the "comfortable life" that was presented to us in a family that we tend to forget that these values were given to us for a reason. Once the wise ones leave us, we are lost to what they were trying to tell us until later on in life after the grieving is done. The the growth begins. There is no why I would talk about a hard issue without giving up the good stuff too. Okay, years after the loved ones depart and the holidays come around again, a change begins to occur.
It's a new strength that offers wisdom, peace and tranquility within the home. Our grandparents faced the same things and passed this knowledge to us when our hamster dies, our kitten or puppy gets sick. These life lessons, we pass on to our own when we reach the point our grandparents did. Some of us reach it sooner than others. These life lessons become a new foundation and the glue for out own familial culture. I honestly do think that what we know know and what we experience now, no matter how hard it is during the time we face the issue, will provide us with the tools necessary to aid the next generation when the time comes for us to discuss these matters in full.