Still hated by the universe
Today started with a coworker of mine(who likes to randomly burst into song) singing "Come What May."
I have concluded that the universe does, in fact, hate me. My mother has told me buying a lottery ticket is probably not the best of ideas.
Anyway, I've been thinking about carpooling. Now, as someone who has done quite a bit of that, I think the initimacy of the carpooling experience is underestimated. During one of the shows I was in last year the director was working on a scene that took place in the car and he said something to the effect of "Have you ever noticed how many of our important conversations take place in cars? You're both looking forward, but right next to each othere. There's no where else for you to go and nothing to do but talk."
The one couple in this current show met while carpooling. I've made friends while carpooling. First of all, there's already an implicit trust by riding with someone. If you're the driver, you have a duty to, you know, not run into a telephone pole. As the passanger you are putting your trust in someone that you may not know very well, to propel you down the road, at 65 mph. Its more dangerous than dating, more dangerous than kissing even. The stakes are high, my friends and you're in the driver's seat.
So my conclusion is this. All of my future second or third dates will involve going for a ride. We'll pick up some coffee or ice cream, no destitation required(though one may be nice) and ride around for half an hour.
You can learn a lot from how someone drives. Do they handle the car smoothly? Do the run through yellow lights or slow and stop? Do they swear at other drivers? Will they let someone in who's trying to merge? You can quickly see who's passive aggressive, how far someone's kindess will go.
And all from the passanger seat of a vehicle.
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Another interesting discussion was about a member of the cast and how he lent his favorite movie to his then-girlfriend. She called him later that night and said "How can you like this movie?! You have terrible taste in movies!" and then he wouldn't talk to her. (But he still dated her for awhile after...huh.)
Now, first off, that he continued dating her boggles my mind. But maybe if you love someone you're willing to overlook it. (Also its different if its "I saw this movie and did not care for it" the whole "You have terrible taste" is the kicker for me.) But I, too, went on a date with someone who said "Yeah, The Princess Bride is overrated, I don't know why people even bother with it."
It was at that moment I knew the date was doomed.
Your favorite movies say a lot about you. I love "When Harry Met Sally" "Lord of the Rings" "The Princess Bride" "Young Frankenstein" and "Dracula, Dead and Loving It."
From this I feel its a safe bet you can say that I like happy endings, epic battles, sword fighting, and the occasional witty but stupid comedy. So if Mr. Too Cool date didn't like Princess Bride, there was probably quite a bit about me that wouldn't have worked for him.
You know, by going on lots of first dates I'm learning an awful lot about people and what I don't want...
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I'm still pretty sure the universe hates me, but I'm almost to the point where I'm ready to pretend to be in love onstage again this weekend. And my drinking? Yeah, I'm going to have a glass of wine when I get home instead ;)
-Caitin
I have concluded that the universe does, in fact, hate me. My mother has told me buying a lottery ticket is probably not the best of ideas.
Anyway, I've been thinking about carpooling. Now, as someone who has done quite a bit of that, I think the initimacy of the carpooling experience is underestimated. During one of the shows I was in last year the director was working on a scene that took place in the car and he said something to the effect of "Have you ever noticed how many of our important conversations take place in cars? You're both looking forward, but right next to each othere. There's no where else for you to go and nothing to do but talk."
The one couple in this current show met while carpooling. I've made friends while carpooling. First of all, there's already an implicit trust by riding with someone. If you're the driver, you have a duty to, you know, not run into a telephone pole. As the passanger you are putting your trust in someone that you may not know very well, to propel you down the road, at 65 mph. Its more dangerous than dating, more dangerous than kissing even. The stakes are high, my friends and you're in the driver's seat.
So my conclusion is this. All of my future second or third dates will involve going for a ride. We'll pick up some coffee or ice cream, no destitation required(though one may be nice) and ride around for half an hour.
You can learn a lot from how someone drives. Do they handle the car smoothly? Do the run through yellow lights or slow and stop? Do they swear at other drivers? Will they let someone in who's trying to merge? You can quickly see who's passive aggressive, how far someone's kindess will go.
And all from the passanger seat of a vehicle.
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Another interesting discussion was about a member of the cast and how he lent his favorite movie to his then-girlfriend. She called him later that night and said "How can you like this movie?! You have terrible taste in movies!" and then he wouldn't talk to her. (But he still dated her for awhile after...huh.)
Now, first off, that he continued dating her boggles my mind. But maybe if you love someone you're willing to overlook it. (Also its different if its "I saw this movie and did not care for it" the whole "You have terrible taste" is the kicker for me.) But I, too, went on a date with someone who said "Yeah, The Princess Bride is overrated, I don't know why people even bother with it."
It was at that moment I knew the date was doomed.
Your favorite movies say a lot about you. I love "When Harry Met Sally" "Lord of the Rings" "The Princess Bride" "Young Frankenstein" and "Dracula, Dead and Loving It."
From this I feel its a safe bet you can say that I like happy endings, epic battles, sword fighting, and the occasional witty but stupid comedy. So if Mr. Too Cool date didn't like Princess Bride, there was probably quite a bit about me that wouldn't have worked for him.
You know, by going on lots of first dates I'm learning an awful lot about people and what I don't want...
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I'm still pretty sure the universe hates me, but I'm almost to the point where I'm ready to pretend to be in love onstage again this weekend. And my drinking? Yeah, I'm going to have a glass of wine when I get home instead ;)
-Caitin