Happy Veterans' Whine

[purchasemonkey]

   First off, a big "thank you" to the veterans out there. I hesitate to start mentioning names, for fear of leaving someone out, but let me tag dancingshaman, ratontheroad, and fornaxus right off the bat. I'll also give the nod to my dad, my stepdad, my uncle, and my grandfather, and his uncle.

Second, thank you to all the folks on my friends list who helped out at Dickens Fair

Comments

[ophymirage]

I think Danielle's assessment (reply) is correct - there probably *is* a disparity between women and men (and, as Laura points out, possibly between older women and younger women as well) wanting to move into other roles.

There's always going to be way more women than men who want to dance. that's just a truth. which means that the Fezzi men can be danceypants as long as they want, as hard as they want, with as many partners as they can handle (woo!), and there will *always* be more work for them to do, and they're *always* going to be more desired/desirable as partners.

Especially as the women age a bit/fatten up a bit/whatever, it becomes harder and harder to convince customer men to dance with you. that kind of rejection does become wearing after a while, no matter how good one's ego is. SO, finding other ways to be useful becomes more paramount. If one wants to be useful, but is consistently shut out/turned down/not thanked/etc., *even if it's only their own perceptions*.. well. you suffer quietly, or depart for greener pastures.

I unfortunately *also* don't have a solution. AND recognize that to what extent I have these issues, and to some extent I do, they *are* irrational and emotional, and I should just get over it. and, for the most part, I do. but it does make something that should be joyous fun, kind of annoying at times. ;-D